Any advice for what to ask GP at first visit to discuss problems TTC?

[FrenchLimeBlossom]

Hello all,

after 8 unsuccessful cycles of TTC#1 DH and I have decided now is the time to visit the GP and try to find out if there is anything wrong versus it just being bad luck so far.

I'd be really grateful for some advice or tips from people in the know as to what we should say, ask, what to expect etc.

To be honest we have talked and talked about what might happen if we could not conceive naturally and we always said we would not do IVF, we'd just look at adoption etc. But in order to relax about it a bit I just need to know if we can't or whether we can but haven't yet, IYKWIM.

I've been charting so will take charts along but is there anything else which you wish you had asked or said which might have assisted the whole process?

Thanks in advance for any responses!

I haven't been yet - but am under 35 and am on cycle 9 on 2ww. I was going to go but was sick.

As am under 35 am going to say I have been trying a year otherwise they won't really do anything. Am not sure if I am going to take my charts as have heard people saying the doctors ignored them but will mention that I have been charting.

As this whole thing is getting me so stressed and upset I will probably cry so am hoping doctor will take pity on me. Not sure what else to say.

Ah lou, sorry to hear that. Hope the 2ww brings you good news. I think i recognise you from a few buses i was on....

I am feeling pretty weepy too, I am also under 35 on cycle 9 (but will tell her over a year I think since we were married in fact which would be 15 months), just started cycle 9 today actually as AF arrived after being over a week late (so unlike me) and absolutely crushed me as i was really getting my hopes up.

sorry for hijack - hi Louja, just popped in to see how you were doing. Sorry you're still feeling low. Good luck with GP visit, both of you.
Will keep an ear out as may be trying the same route in a month or 2 if no joy.

My advice would be to Lie and say you have been trying longer than you have.

That way they will maybe be more prepared to do tests or to refer you to a specialist.

Have you ever had any blood tests?If not then get them to do a day 3 and day 21 test (might be slightly ajusted for the day 21 test if your cycles are very long or very short) and aslo I would get your DH to ask for a sperm test.

If you can rule out anything wrong with ovulation/sperm etc then they should do further investigations.

I am about to start IUI and also always said i would never do IVF but after two years of trying I am considering it now, just as long as we can raise the funds. IUI is less invasive and if you are young it might work for you better than it would for me (I am 40) so worth persuing.

good luck.

Hi

I would suggest that you revise a bit so you can summon up the stats of what your cycles have been like in the last 6 months or so (i.e. regular or not, any intracycle bleeding, what your periods have been like, whether you have detected ovulation or not, and how long your luteal phase is).

Ask for a full set of blood tests for yourself, and a semen analysis for your OH. Ask whether you can also have a HSG once the blood tests have been done. Basically sound as though you understand what you're talking about and what you expect them to refer you for (might help if they are a bit out of touch or vague about what order things should be done in).

I think if you do all this and slightly exaggerate how long you've been trying, you have a very good chance of being taken seriously and getting the tests you want.

Good luck!

Hiya Jollster am nearing end of wait and found out through figuring out some one in RL ID (by a hunch I haven't been stalking) is pregnant and she's only just started trying. I think these doctors should check us out and I would only be telling a white lie. How are you anyways?