Right it's been 6 months, getting a bit pissed off now. What can I do?

[HohohoBumperlicious]

I already have a DD who is 2.5. Been trying for no.2 since June/July but nothing doing. Tried the intensive sex around ovulation, then tried more laid back every other day in the build up to ovulation. Nada. Everyone around me is getting pregnant, sister, 5 of my friends. I'm doing all the right things, at least I think I am. DD only took two months.

I'm not desperate or anything, I just want it to happen so I can plan around it. I hate not being able to control this.

Anything else I could be doing, any tips to help things along?

Relax and get on with it. Six months is no time at all in the grand scheme of things.

DC1=nearly 6 years TTC with umpteen mc'c
DC2=2.5 years TTC with umpteen mc's
DC3=15 months not TTC with no MC's.

So patience my dear, patience.

Hi HohohoBumperlicious, sorry that nothing has happened so far Do you mind me asking how old you are? I think for ladies over 35 years old your Doctor should carry out some basic tests after you've been trying for 6 months. Just simple ones like blood tests, sending your husband for a sperm test etc.

Are you charting your temps or using OPK tests? We had problems conceiving our DS and our consultant advised DTD every other day throughout the whole cycle.

I know how especially hard it is when every one else around is getting pregnant. It took us 13 months to conceive our DS, and in that time 4 of of best friends got pregnant.

Good luck

The best tip we were given was that anyone who had not conceived within 6 months should go to the GP for some basic tests. In all probability there's nothing wrong, in which case getting the all-clear from the tests will give you some reassurance.

Hope all goes well for you.

Can empathise - been trying for 16 months for first baby with no success. Going to talk to gp sounds like a good idea for basic tests - the route I am going down. Has your cycle changed, or ovulation since first child - for me just finding out about my cycle has given me a feeling of some control back again.

All the best.

Completely understand where you are coming from as dd1 took 1 month to conceive and then it was 7 months with the twins...
Don't be suprised if your GP sends you away for another 6 months unless you have some particular reason for worrying...

After month 6 I came to the conclusion that I wasn't ovulating on day 14, so month 7 we concentrated on day 13 and 15 with a day off in between...which obviously worked...so fiddle about with your days...

take care

Thanks for the replies. Sorry to post and run, been at MILs with no internet. I know that I should be patient and not worry, just venting frustration really.

I'm 28 so should be no worry there, though DH is 44 but not sure if that should make much difference. Have bought sme OPK sticks from ebay, even if I just use them one month to see how I am ovulating.

Funnily enough the first 3 months of trying I was dead on 28 days, fairly sure I was ovulating at day 14, then month 4 my period was 5 days late, I was convinced I was pregnant, big boobs etc. but testing negative then my period came all of a sudden and since then it's varied by a few days.

I'll try and relax, I am actually less stressed about it than I was in the first few months, it's just annoying waiting around, not knowing what to do about changing jobs at work etc.

Thanks for the sympathy though, just need to vent.

wow its like i wrote your post, i am also 28 been ttc for 6months and getting ticked off too. we have been trying to relax abit more the past 2 months, (both of us). the work stress could be playing havoc with your body we married had 2 big birthdays and moved when we first ttc with 2nd child, hated the fact i had 52 day cycles. thinking you are pregnant for 28 days and getting a negative result is no joke. we will get there. good luck to you and your husband.
p.s maybe be as your husband is alittle older you could look at tweeking his diet a bit, cant hurt x x

Don't know if it's something you'd consider/ already doing, but it really helped me to chart my temperatures - felt like I could at least see what my body was doing, even if I had no control over it!! Also not sure if you have read it but I would recommend 'Taking Charge of Your Fertility' by Toni Weschler, a hundred times over.

HTH