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Am I Pregnant? Faint lines, positives, negatives and early miscarriage

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SamanthaB123 · 14/12/2009 18:38

I am wondering if anyone can offer advice...my period was due last Thursday and in the evening I did a pregnancy test which was faintly positive. I repeated it the next day for a more convincing answer, but again there was a faint line. Over the weekend nausea really kicked in too. This will be my third pregnancy although my other children are much older (9 and 11). On Saturday night I did a clear blue digital test which was positive. This morning however, I did another test (no idea why, I just felt like it) and the result was negative. I went to my doctor who was very matter of fact and said that I had miscarried. She didn't do any tests and I was in and out in minutes. I have had no bleeding at all and the pregnancy symptoms continue. Have I miscarried or could the tests be wrong? If I have, how long will it be before I bleed and can try again, and, when will I stop feeling pregnant?

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EldonAve · 14/12/2009 18:51

the test could be wrong

PandaEis · 14/12/2009 18:56

hi

sorry but your GP sounds like a total plank!!

you have had numerous positive tests and one negative. this IN NO WAY says you have MC'ed!! if you have no bleeding, pain etc and are continuing to have preg symptoms. i would wait a few days and test again and go back to the GP (pref a different GP) armed with your undoubtedly positive result and ask themto refer you for antenatal care!! (can you tell i am not a fan of GP services??)

i had a GP who out right REFUSED to believe that i was pregnant, purely on the basis that i am 2 stone over weight in her "professional" opinion it would be physically impossible for me to concieve she is an idiot i made a complaint and moved to a different surgery

GoldenGreen · 14/12/2009 19:01

When this happened to me I started to bleed two days later - it was a chemical pregnancy. If you test again tomorrow and it's negative I would prepare for that possiblility but of course the test could be wrong

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SamanthaB123 · 14/12/2009 19:03

We did think it was time to change GP's - my hormones are wild and uncontrollable at the moment and I feel really sad. There was no warmth or compassion.

I have been searching on the internet and I may have had a chemical pregnancy. If that's the case I should bleed by week 6. If it's over, I just want it to be over and not inside of me. Another week seems like an age away...

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SamanthaB123 · 14/12/2009 19:04

Sorry our messages overlapped. I think that may be the case. How did you feel? I've been all over the place all day.

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GoldenGreen · 14/12/2009 19:42

Emotionally felt awful on the day I got the negative - couldn't speak without crying. Felt really wrung out. But once the bleeding started I felt much better - like you, I just wanted it to be all over with. Physically it wasn't too bad, strong cramps but not terrible.

I was under treatment by a fertility clinic so got blood tests to show the hcg levels going down so I knew what was happening, which made it more final but at least meant I didn't have false hope. Having said that, I am hoping that in your case, the test is wrong and all will be okay....

Sorry about your GP - a bit of compassion costs nothing and can make such a difference.

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SamanthaB123 · 14/12/2009 19:48

Thanks for your messages...I am a teacher and decided I was better at school than on my own at home today. It did help me get through the day, but I feel lousy now. I daren't hope because I don't want to feel like this again in a week's time. How have things worked out for you since?

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GoldenGreen · 14/12/2009 19:56

you're welcome...I remember how miserable it was... the good news for me is that I am now 18 weeks pregnant so things have worked out well so far. Let us know how you get on.

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SamanthaB123 · 14/12/2009 20:02

Congratulations...I am really pleased for you. I will let you know how I get on, but for now I am exhausted with all the emotion and hormones and am going to have to sleep!

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SamanthaB123 · 15/12/2009 19:20

And so the plot thickens...this morning I shed four spots of blood which I assumed were the beginning of the miscarriage. Now, much later in the day, I no longer feel sick and my energy is returning, but there is still no real bleed to speak of. Will it just follow with time? Is this normal?

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Georgimama · 15/12/2009 19:25

Is there an EPU (early pregnancy unit) at your local hospital? You can usually just turn up but only at certain times.

To be frank, it's either the case that you are having, or about to have a very early miscarriage (in which case massive sympathies, have been there twice in the last year) or you are still pregnant and are spotting, but things are OK. The EPU should be able to tell you either way. Good luck.

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SamanthaB123 · 15/12/2009 19:41

I think I've convinced myself that this is an early miscarriage because the signs are all there. I might do another test tomorrow if I haven't had any more bleeding just to be sure. I don't really think that I can still be pregnant - most of my symptoms have stopped throughout today. I have had two 'ordinary' pregnancies prior to this and just want to be able to move on and try again.

Thank you for your message, how have things worked out for you since your miscarriages?

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Georgimama · 15/12/2009 19:49

I'm so sorry samantha. I would really suggest you seek medical attention if there is very heavy blood loss though, just in case.

Taking a break from trying again tbh - feel a little too raw. Once the second due date is out of the way (1st Feb) I might feel differently. Be kind to yourself - like you I felt better at work as I just sat and cried at home. You may need to rest though and you should if you want to.

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SamanthaB123 · 15/12/2009 19:54

I'm really sorry. I have been so touched by the experiences of other people that I have met here. I wish you every success in conceiving in the future.

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Georgimama · 15/12/2009 19:56

Thanks, you're very kind. Take it easy.

LittlewhiskersCat · 15/12/2009 19:59

Hi, I had a chemical pregnancy recently, I had a faint positive the day my period was due and lots of symptoms, but by day 6 I had a negative and I started period that night.

TBH I never had a strong positive test unlike my other pgs which were very strong positives from the start, so I kind of knew something wasn't right. Of course it's possible for tests to be wrong but odd for more than one test to show negative at this stage I would say, when your hormone levels should be increasing every day. But you never know

I would just keep an eye on it, either you will get positive tests or if you continue to get negatives but with no period I would definitely see a doctor (in case something is being retained which is not good AFAIK). All the best.

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SamanthaB123 · 15/12/2009 20:11

In my other pregnancies I had strong positive lines on the tests. I didn't even know that this could happen. I really don't believe that I am pregnant any more. I just don't feel it like I did at the weekend - to be honest I would be amazed if I was. My doctor wasn't very interested at all and said to go back in a few weeks if I hadn't bled. I am going to do a test tomorrow if there is no further bleeding and go back to the doctors Monday if the test is negative and still no period. How have things worked out for you since your chemical pregnancy?

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mistletoeandjuan · 15/12/2009 20:17

I had a a chemical pregnancy/very early m/c last year - was a week late, took the test, got a positive in the morning and then started bleeding in the afternoon .

I got pregnant the next month and DD is now 7 months

Hope it all works out for you.

LittlewhiskersCat · 15/12/2009 20:21

Things have been relatively OK tbh... we weren't "officially" trying this month so I didn't find it as crushing as if we had been trying IYSWIM. Physically, fine - just a fairly ordinary period. Some symptoms took longer to go than others - feeling thirsty and over-emotional reactions only wore off over a week after the AF but the boobs, funny taste in mouth and strong-coloured urine (my pg urine always looks like I am severely dehydrated for some reason) all went within a day or two.

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SamanthaB123 · 15/12/2009 20:24

Congratulations mistletoeandjuan, I am delighted for you. Are you planning to have any more??!

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SamanthaB123 · 15/12/2009 20:30

Dear LittlewhiskersCat, I am glad that you are ok, I hope that things do work out for you when you are ready. My boobs still feel pregnant but the rest of me is pretty much back to as it was. Oddly, the whole episode has taken less than a week...all part of the experience of life. I am optimistic for the future...

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sparklyrainbow · 15/12/2009 20:41

Think this was me too about a month ago, except I didn't test (didn't really think I could be pregnant- we'd used condoms, just assumed I was late for whatever reason ) but had lots of pregnancy symptoms. Eventually did test when AF was about 2.5 weeks late, expecting positive, and got a negative then started a really short but heavy and painful period (TMI alert- quite stringy and clots, not normal). I felt so awful I wasn't pregnant- tbh so was OH once we'd got over the shock I potentially was- we decided to TTC properly. Now in the two week window and trying hard not to think about it and failing...

Hope everything works out Samantha- not long til the end of term (I'm a teacher too!)

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SamanthaB123 · 15/12/2009 20:49

Three days and counting...I am fine with trying to conceive again - this has made us realise too that we really do want to have a baby, but I am worried about how I will deal with being pregnant next time. Once I have a positive test, I feel that I will be compelled to keep checking that this hasn't happened again. Clearly that is not at all healthy but I don't know how to deal with it.

Very good luck in your window (see previous message about stretchy mucas), do you have children already?

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GoldenGreen · 17/12/2009 11:21

been thinking of you, Samantha - how are things today?

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SamanthaB123 · 17/12/2009 19:05

Hmmmm. Things have been tough for the last couple days. Bleeding started yesterday and was really painful, much more painful than my normal periods. Today the bleeding continues to be excessively heavy but the pain has subsided. I feel really low though - I guess my hormone levels are plumetting. I had a real dip this afternoon and had a panic attack too, I haven't had one in an age (another story altogether...I was post viral having contracted meningitis and panic attacks set in during my recovery).

I spoke to my GP this afternoon. She doesn't need to see me and said all my symptoms were normal. She also said that I was overdoing it and Christmas shopping was a mistake. I'd worked that out...

I will be very glad when this part is past. I am just waiting for the whole episode to be over.

Thanks for your concern, all well with you?

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