First time ttc

[MrsTayl]

Hi everyone,

DH and I have decided to TTC and I'm just coming to the end of my first period since stopping the pill. Any advice, do's/don'ts etc? Feeling very excited but impatient already but think the enormity of the situation is just kicking in with hubby and he's not quite as excited as me!!

P.S. I also have a boss who keeps asking me if I'm feeling broody (have so far resisted urge to punch her!) - any tips on putting folk off the scent??

Tips - yes - deny all

"Ooh, we don't want kids, at least not for aaaages yet".

Good luck with the TTC!

Ha ha! I like that!

Hi MrsTayl
Am just starting TTC so not really any advice. I've had 2 'real' periods since taking the pill and it's quite nice to have been able to calculate my cycle length. Was on the pill for about 8 years and never bothered to track my periods before then- my body always let me know when I was due on!

I think this is actually the worst time of year to TTC and keep it a secret, with Christmas in the way. For me that means lots of drinking, and eating of foods that should be avoided if pregnant!

Here's a few weird thoughts that I've had - wonder if anyone just starting TTC has felt the same:

• It's so weird not to use any form of contraception. After years and years of being careful it just feels strange (kind of wrong).
• Is very strange thinking - 'hmmm, had sex last night so there is sperm inside me waiting for an egg!' (sorry TMI)
• Really not understanding how people can get pregnant from a one-night stand etc - they have to 1) be around the time of ovulation, 2)have to have an egg fertilised, 3) fertilised egg has to implant 4) it has to stay implanted! When so many people on here are charting temps/using ovulation tests/etc and take months to get pregnant. And what about people who use a condom and still get pregnant

(btw - am in no way criticising people who got pregnant from one time - just that the whole process seems so impossible even with military planning!)

• The feeling of walking around thinking 'I'm trying to get pregnant' and no one else knowing!

Right - now that I've made myself sound like a total freak - I'm off!

Hi

I totally relate to what you're saying PurpleHeffalump. We're on our second cycle of trying and have been having similar thoughts to you - it's very strange having tried so hard for years NOT to get pregnant to now trying our best to conceive.

I'm trying to be more sensible this month as last month I kept symptom spotting and then cried when AF arrived (silly I know as it was only the first time of trying but somehow couldn't help it)- would offer this as advice i.e. don't get your hopes up too high too soon to avoid getting so upset, but I think it may be kind of inevitable?!

Know exactly what you both mean. We were going to try later next year but are TTC now because last month AF was almost 3 weeks late, and I was convinced I was pregnant (would have been accidental)... when AF arrived I was so upset* I wasn't pregnant OH pointed out it was silly to delay it and we should just go for it!

*not helped by good friend going into labour the same day!

Good luck to you all

Totally agree with you PurpleHeffalump! It goes against every sex ed class you ever had! Although, that's quite nice too! Agree about the christmas thing too - would be a dead giveaway to all and sundry if I refused a glass of vino (I'm really not an alcoholic...!) so am thinking I'll just cut down a bit. DH working stupid hours all over the festive period anyway so chances of us even getting the chance to BD are pretty slim...boo!

Hi

We're on cycle 2 of TTC as well. It's very strange thinking that after years of being really careful that it actually does take more than one time behind the bikesheds to get pregnant!!

I have spent years building up a reputation for being completely unmaternal so people rarely ask me when we're having kids!

There's a whole thread here devoted to first time TTC if anyone wants to join.