Bewildered MN noob..oh and introduction!

[NicNocJnr]

I hope starting a new thread isn't a gross breach of netiquette here, as titled I am a completely (ashamedly so in 2009!) bewildered newbie here and have had no experience of using boards like this so am finding it all too easy to get a little lost..I blame FB.

I just wanted to introduce myself and hope a kindly soul would let me know if I'm in the right place and/or if there are other threads I should be looking at.

My name is Sam, I'm 24 and my DP and I have been ttc since 2006 (well very end of 2005). I have PCOS but managed to conceive 6 times, unfortunately all these pg's ended in miscarriage at various stages. Now we have hit a brick wall and are struggling to conceive again...it has been 16months now with no luck at all. Due to our previous mc's we have been investigated and we have been left with a basically useless diagnosis of mystery infertility (my words not the Doc's..he wasn't quite that bad!!).
Due to erratic or non-existant ovulation and long and irregular cycles I've been left feeling a bit at sea with CBFM (Dr advised us to try even against manufacturers instructions), temping and CM.

Anyway after all that moaning about me I'll shut up in a second! I was just hoping for a bit of a pointer to the right place, some good advice and wanted to say hello to everyone..oh, and to promise that against all the evidence so far I'm not scarily dim! So many thanks for reading Sam xXx

Hi there, a good place to start is one of the buses where you will meet lots of lovely ladies to get you through each month. It really does make each month a bit easier as you can moan about TTC and all the madness that goes along with it. Though with your long cycles it may make it difficult to know which bus to get on.

Am really sorry to hear about your previous MCs, you poor thing, you've been through so much. Are you able to see other doctors at all - it doesn't sound right that you are left to your own devices with your history. Where you prescribed any medication at all?

I use the CBFM too, we are trying for our second, I used it with my first also.

hi nicnocjnr sorry to hear about your TTC problems and your MCs i have had 4 myself and have 1 DD so i can understand the pain and frustration too

i have been TTC since september 07 for number 2 and have hjad my last 3 MC during that time i have a mystery infertility diagnosis aswell and i it very irritating when the dr says this and doesnt offer any help isnt it!!

have you not been given anything to help you ovulate?? clomid?? a friend on another thread was given progesterone to induce her period and then clomid to get her ovulation going. she was closely monitored too and got her BFP that cycle

i think joing a thread with long time TTcers would be the best bet for support for you as it is not very nice seeing new TTCer getting BFPs after their first try and you are still waiting, trust me

i post on a thread called WIMBEWAINFs where we are all long term TTCers and mostly the girls have not got children yet and unexplained infertility galore

come on over if you fancy some company

Hi Nic,

I sincerely hope you received and continue to receive support regarding the miscarriages as you have been through a hell of a lot. Have you ever contacted the Miscarriage Association; they are very good.

Have they linked PCOS with your recurrent miscarriages?. At the very least you should be referred to a recurrent miscarriage unit after all that you have both been through as a couple. Have you been there previously?.

Who is treating you currently, I would now complain strongly and ask for a referral to a hopefully more understanding NHS unit in the nearest city to you (if you've been under the NHS till now that is). I think you've been treated appallingly by the people who are supposed to be helping you.

Not right either that you have now been "diagnosed" with unexplained infertility; this is infact no diagnosis at all. All this means is that they have failed to find out what is wrong. Its often given to patients as well when there has not been adequate investigation. Also you have a previous PCOS dx so why they are calling you unexplained anyway is pretty poor on their part.

Would refrain from charting and other such methods; they are of no benefit at all if PCOS is an issue.

I think you have been mucked around a lot and I would start asking very awkward questions of these people. You deserve better treatment frankly.

Thank you all very much for taking the time to reply, such a lot of concentrated good advice! I apologise about the length of time it has taken to get back here (working).
I will certainly come over and hop on the bus as it sounds like it will be a Godsend talking to people that are on the same page.
We have been struggling (read battling) to get correctly referred to the right people (in some cases trying to confirm -who- they might be). The Drs we have been seeing, as we never get to see the same one more than twice, all seem to working at cross purposes so I spend the appt and days at home on the phone trying to sort out what I should be doing. I was confused about the charting methods advised but by this point was getting a bit desperate. I have had one lot of ovarian drilling with minimal results and was put on clomid by the wrong doctor before I had all the tests I retrospectively found out I needed (I was not assertive and I should have been, I know) I ended up with hyperstimulation which was a nightmare.
The problem is I have been advised on every aspect of my care differently by at least one Dr even down to if/when/who I should be getting referred. One problem (amongst many) has been that when I try and research myself I can find something correlating to each bit of advice.
Anyway! Hence why I came here to try and get a bit of common sense advice and maybe recommendations of particular clinics or Drs. I also wanted to be able to see written in front of me a rough plan of action as, due to our losses, I have been easy to mithre lately and not always in the mood for a fight and my poor DP is so cross and disenchanted he is having his own wobble. But I thought all that was a little intense and needy for a first post so held back a bit. Oh I'm sorry this has all come out so haphazardly it's the first time I have been able to talk to other people that understand rather than just offer lovely sympathy but not much practical help (yes, that would be my mum).
So to re-iterate, Thank you all very much I shall go looking! Sam x