Advice and sympathy wanted/needed

[tigger15]

we are trying to conceive no. 2. I got pg quite quickly and then miscarried at 11 weeks. After a waiting period and an ERPC we started trying again. That was 3 months ago and so far no success (AF came again today).

I am type 1 diabetic which means that when ttc I have to keep very tight control of my blood sugar which means that I can't eat a lot of things I like e.g. bread, chocolate, cake, crumpets as well as the usual pg restrictions. Anyway I suggested to my dh that he might like to consider cutting out hot baths and restrict caffeine and alcohol in order to see if that would make a difference. The response was "I won't feel like doing anything if you make me do that". He later informed me that he thought I was trying to do this so he could share my miserable life.

Anyone have any suggestions of things that can be done and how to relax over the whole wretched process. It doesn't help that I'm surrounded by loads of people who keep on telling me they're pregnant.

Hi tigger15 I am sorry that you mc'd and that you are experiencing that, it is so stressful and ttc can put such a strain on a relationship. Dh and I are ttc number 1 and most of my coupled up friends are falling pregnant left right and centre. I know how you feel. I can only give a suggestion but it sounds like you and your husband have reached quite an intense peak with ttc and when my dh and I ever get to that point we need to step away from it for a couple of days and need time to reconnect and remember that we are a team and in it together. Maybe go for a meal, a long walk or if you can get a babysitter for your daughter maybe a weekend away (lots of offers online at the moment in the UK). Anything that you can do so that you can both relax and just decompress. I am going through a bit of an obsessive phase and trawling on the internet about ttc and I know that it annoys dh sometimes if I do it too much. I am my own worst enemy getting completely wound up with the process of ttc and I know what to do - put the computer away and snuggling up on the sofa with dh. It is easy to let it run your life and your every thought but it is important to remember your marriage and if you have kids, them too. Everyone keeps on telling me that it will happen when you least expect it. We have been ttc for over 10 months, I have my fingers crossed that they are right. Good luck tigger15

Thanks. I just met a friend who is due around the time I would have been and was able to congratulate and even feel happy for her. So I guess I'm relaxing a bit till the next cycle starts.