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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Second baby

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LucieB · 23/05/2003 10:19

Anyone trying to conceive their second baby and finding it tough? I have now been trying for over 6 months - which I know isn't that long but it seems forever. Would be interested to hear from others as to how long it took to conceive second time around and any tips re maximising our chances would be gratefully received!

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wiltshirelass · 23/05/2003 10:26

took a bit longer with each of mine. 1st was about a week (really!), second about 4 months, third about 8 months (with a few months in that where dh and I were in different countries in the relevant time). function of age and probably slightly less frequent trying (!) I think. usual advice - try not to think about it too much, have sex every two days or so (not daily) from about 9 days after your period starts, and try and stay flat (or even with a pillow under your bum to raise it a bit) afterwards (ie don't have sex in the morning and then rush off to work - try and give the poor sperm not too much gravity to swim against!)....

eefs · 23/05/2003 10:29

LucieB, sorry to hear you've been trying for a while, but I think when the first baby is conceived easily it's always a shock when the second seems to take a bit more time.
DS was conceived far too easily! I came off the pill last september-ish and we were not really trying, but not trying to prevent it either IYKWIM. I conceived at the start of March sometime, so about the 6 month mark too for the second baby.
Re maximising chances - try getting very drunk and forgetting the condoms - worked for us the only time we tried it and DS appeared 9 months later

wiltshirelass · 23/05/2003 10:32

yes, I'd also add that the month you get pregnant is the month you aren't paying attention to when your period is due, you haven't done any of that mad testing 2 days beforehand "just in case" and it dawns on you one day "shouldn't I have started my period last monday"?
And you'll have spent the week before you found out getting dreadfully drunk at someone's hen night/leaving do/wedding...

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LucieB · 23/05/2003 10:37

Wiltshirelass - why do you say not to bd daily? There seems to be conflicting advice about this. Some say every other day and others say as much as possible!

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wiltshirelass · 23/05/2003 11:31

apparently by doing it every other day you build up a nice healthy shot of sperm - more often and your dh's epididimus can't make enough to keep up so each shot is a bit crap. if you know what I mean!

Lollypop · 24/05/2003 06:49

Took longer second time around. Wiltshire lass is right, got v. drunk before finding out I was pg both times, kids seem OK though. But those little spermies arn't too bad at swimming against gravity.

Ghosty · 24/05/2003 07:51

LucieB ... I am in the same boat as you. I conceived DS without trying at all ... first time I had ever had unprotected sex ... We conceived again for a second baby in the first month (when DS was 2.5) but lost the pregnancy at 12 weeks last November. Now we have been trying for 6 months and are having no luck at all. It can be quite depressing if I think about it too much but this last month I have made an effort to concentrate on other things (... trying to find a way to make some money amongst other things) and I have felt better about it. Don't think I am pregnant (due on today ... but nothing yet) as I just don't 'feel' it IYKWIM!!

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LucieB · 27/05/2003 10:02

And you have hit the jackpot!!! Congrats Ghosty - want to know more about that diet and your tips for getting it right!!!!

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cheeky · 27/05/2003 15:21

tried for 3 years before first became pregnant then then got pregnant after two months of trying second time but miscarried and then next time, first month of having unprotected sex but not actually trying although the last two were conceived after having sex with my legs round dps neck! I agree the harder you try the harder it comes and as soon as you stop trying it happens. Hard not to think about it though

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LucieB · 29/05/2003 10:12

It is really tricky not to think about it, especially as time moves on and you get worried that things might not be quite right - do you know what I mean. The flip-side of course is that you become quite pessimistic about your chances each month and so relax a bit more. At the moment, I am in my first month of Persona - lots of 'red days' and so lots of bd! Hopefully things will be a bit more relaxed next month when it will pinpoint the days when we are most likely to strike lucky!! Best of luck to everyone else ttc. Keep going and keep posting!!!

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twiglett · 01/07/2003 21:31

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lilymum · 01/07/2003 21:49

LucieB - my dd1 and dd3 came unannounced, and dd2 came at first try. For her, we used a natural family planning method, the Billings Method, which teaches you to know when you're ovulating. I think they have a website, but can't find it at the momemt - I'll post the link if I do. Otherwise, you could try looking for links on a search engine. Good luck.

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LucieB · 02/07/2003 10:05

Lilymum - thanks for your post - I am now expecting no2 - am 7 weeks plus one day so still very early days, but fingers crossed....

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lilymum · 02/07/2003 21:09

LucieB - lovely news. All the best.

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