Ranting post (sorry)- going ga ga symptom spotting, another friend pregnant (FIRST TRY!) and everything else inbetween. I need chocolate.

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Sorry for the rant. I am in the 2 week waiting period and feeling rather frustrated doing the mad symptom spotting. This month I have discovered little thread veins on my chest. There are not many and I can only see them when I squint and we all know that they have most probably been there since forever and I have just never noticed them before. I know this and still I check them every time I go to the loo just to see if they are becoming more prominent or spreading. Another friend revealed that they were pregnant. She did the whole head tilt thing and said that she did not know how to tell me because she knew that dh and I had been trying for a while. I know that she is being sincere and is lovely for empathising but it has still put a bit of a damper over the last couple of days. They got it right practically first time too. I am in the spiralling corridor of Googling every type of symptom (as I do every month) and when I cannot possibly search for anything else I just hover over the keyboard, flip from one forum to the other, back to symptom spotting, forum, symptom spotting, forum, symptom spotting forums. I am going to stop now (going to the loo to check my boobs). If you made it this far, thanks for reading.

Thanks.

The rain has made DH be out at work lots (cab driver) so the bonking is on the back burner!

Update update update!!!

My friend has tested this morning and is pregnant!

Yippee. Am possibly more pleased for her than I would be for myself...

Wonderful news!! It is always nice to hear a success story.

Hey lovechoc I am back on the AF train as of this morning - Straight to the local garage for a chocolate almond magnum or two. I was Here's to chocolate and bd'g.

MyMy - you could also be me!!!

We've been trying fornearly 2 years - done 3 rounds of clomid, 4 days late with bfn on a test, friends keep telling me their preg with the whole concern of how I'll feel (which is lovely but how can you tell them exctly how you feel when they have what you so want!).

How tings going with you?

Hey Fairygodmother1 - It sucks doesn't it? The next stage for us is to wait until January when we next have an appointment with the sub fertility clinic. We are awaiting dh's test results and in the meantime we are trying to catch the optimum times etc., but I am wondering if I should just maybe relax about it all until January. It still astounds me how some people get pg just by sharing the soap but then I guess that is just the way it is. I am in the 2ww now so symptom spotting madness will start soon with the inevitable bfn. As you can see I am in a bit of a negatory mood tonight! CHOCOLATE TIME!
Good luck to you Fairygodmother1. Have you retested?

It took me 18 months for my 1st.

I got pregnant when I had stopped doing all the charting and was living apart from my DH for work only seeing him every weekend!

It was very frustrating!!

Hi Allyinoz - I have only really started the charting and for the past couple of days I have been at 97.45F, which, if I look at other chart examples in books etc., looks quite low. Did you have any tests done up to that point or was it a wait and see thing?

Hi Mymy,

Retested but another neg this morning. Thats a week late now. I've also got appointment Jan with the clinic to discuss how the clomid has gone.

It does feel like everyone else can get preg just by looking at each other but not me!!!! But that seems to be my life all over really. I have to b awkward & do it differently than everyone else & rarely get things rigt the first time round. Although I feel now that someone's beginning to take the biscuit (thats putting it nicely). A jokes a joke, now I want to be 'normal'!!!!

Hi, I was just reading your thread and although I have had my first baby this year I have a number of friends who have been in the same situation. My one friend was actually 27 when she confided that she had been trying for over a year with her husband and she thought it was hopeless so she gave it a rest and stopped actively trying and about a year later she was pregnant. The clinic told another friend that due to the damage an ectopic pregnancy had previously done, that she would never be able to conceive-she now has two girls and the first was a shock as no precautions were taken as she did not think she needed too. I know everyone is different but I hope this helps. Good Luck, I'm sure it'll happen soon xxx

Thank you for the advice Bridgetsbf. We have been trying since I was 27 & it feels defeatest to just wait & see, plus I don't know how long I'll be kept on the clomid. Thats what actually makes me ovulate so if I didn't try then I'd be wasting my time.

There is a lot of people having good luck & I'm waiting for my turn but I'm also not a patient person & I am a person who tries their hardest...

Girls, I feel your pain... Unfortunately, my best "remedy" is out of bounds... (Clue: it starts with 'w' and ends with a very heavy recycling box )

Is that a remedy for the pain or to get preg lol?

HA!

I too understand your frustrations. I've been ttc for 2 years - still no luck. I thought this month was definitely THE month when I was 3 days late, but the witch arrived this morning!
I just feel like its never going to happen for me. My cycles are always 28 days on the dot, have never been diagnosed with PCOS or anything so really can't understand what the problem is. All my friends seem to be getting pregnant at the drop of a hat which makes it even more frustrating!! The worse thing of all it that my partner and his ex were expecting but she m/c so I know it is a problem with me! Going to book a doctors appointment but not really sure what to say or do!! xx

MyMy - I also usually chart at 97.20 - 97.50 pre-ovulation, then it jumps to around 98 at OV, climbs to a high of around 98.30 before coming down a day or two before AF.

I conceived 1st attempt so I don't think it is detrimental to conception (wasn't in my case).

The main thing is to keep charting until you start to see a pattern, usually 3 months in.

Thank you for the heads up MmmHmm. AF arrived on Sunday

MyMy - sorry to hear about AF this time

However great news that you have started temping charts. Some people say that they don't want to get obsessed with TTC because of charting, however I found it has the opposite effect ie because you are charting you know exactly when you are OV and if it's regularly, so the rest of the time you can relax, if that's the right term. You only need concentrate on those key few days per month

When you know the signs its so obvious if/when you are OV, so you don't need to wear yourself out BD all through the month plus as sperm usually lives approx 3 days (or more for some virile types!) then you BD a few times up to and including OV so you have more like a 3 day window than just the one day your egg is hanging around, as it were.

I hav been tracking for 5 months now with the intention of TTC#2 starting next month. The first two months I couldn't really see what was going on but after that I have predicted when I will be OV last three months in advance (am regular fortunately) so I only bother temping and charting cervical mucus the days before and after the predicted fertile times [lazy emoticon]

Apologies if I am teaching you to suck eggs... maybe not the right expression! and the VERY BEST OF LUCK x

Thanks MmmHmm, your advice is much appreciated. How are you getting along? x