Isn't it horrible getting your period even if you know you are unlikely to get pregnant as soon as you start trying???

[arabella2]

It took a lot of time for ds to come along (also dh and I didn't really try all the the time so that probably has something to do with it). The month ds was conceived we only "tried" twice so surely that will happen again. Now I think we both agree it would be nice to have another baby but I'm still breastfeeding so that may also affect my chances and anyway I think it's few people who get pregnant straight away (though it does happen...). Even though I know all this there's still that bad feeling - oh no it's started, along with the emotional and physical symptoms of the period itself... I suppose being pregnant is so exciting in itself what I want is the buzz of it as much as anything else... I should remind myself more often of how awful the first three months of sickness were. Anyway, just to let anyone out there who might want to know that I feel like crying...!!!!

I know how you feel arabella ... I felt bad the first time my period came when we started trying in January ... gutted really ... mainly because DS was conceived first time and also I conceived first time again last year (but I lost it ...) ...
Don't feel bad ... and if you want to cry ... do ... there are lots of shoulders here on mumsnet for you !!!!

Arabella
There are a few of us in the same boat and we understand the feelings of despair and disappointment you get every month when your period arrives. We have also been ttc since January and although its not been that long yet, am starting to wonder if anything is wrong with us. Had ds by accident so thought it would happen very quickly the second time around. Trying everything to maximise our chances but its still not happening. And yet I know that I am lucky to have ds and a lot of people go through a lot worse than me......
Anyway, what I was trying to say is, we are here for you.....

Just let you know that I do empathise with you and know how you feel. It took a long time for DD to arrive - took just over a year to conceive, but then mc at 7 weeks, than another year before DD was conceived. Every month I felt horrid but the feeling of utter delight when you do makes it all worth it in the end.

Thank you. I feel better now (though lousy period). In a way the 18 months since ds was born have been great as there has been no question of wanting another baby yet so it has been a pressure free time. I guess starting to "try" again has brought it all back. It took 3.5 years with ds (and a miscarriage) though as I said earlier we were not always trying - this then became a bone of contention between dh and I so it wasn't always an easy time... Anyway I know that we too are very lucky to have ds.