Fertility Friend is so confusing this month

[daisydotandgertie]

I fear it's beginning to drive me mad.

I've been temping for only 3 months and the first 2 months were fab and clear. I Ov'd on day 17 on both months with very clear temp shifts and a lovely looking chart.

This month, not a chance of me understanding what's going on. The first OV cross was applied on CD8 ... thoroughly confused me as my period still hadn't stopped. Is it actually possible to OV when you are bleeding?

Then the cross shifted to CD 13, and today it shifted to day 16. I just don't understand why this month is so odd and we so badly want to conceive. I'm currently on CD17 so god knows what else will happen this month.

Does anyone have any idea what causes the predicted dates to change so much? If OV day was day 8, we've def missed the bus this month!

I really didn't know that OV was possible while still bleeding. You learn something new every day! I really don't think OV on day 8 is likely, my feeling it was an odd temp which resulted from a very disturbed, sleepless night and therefore isn't reliable.

It is hard to read the overall pattern as a new temper (!) but it has already made me far more aware of what my body has been trying to tell me in terms of CM and random cramps and so on which is probably a good thing. I also find it useful to compare patterns with the last couple of months to trend spot

I think that in my ignorance, I just didn't know that there would be such change in the pattern/information it gives - I have read about temping, and started doing it only to find that actually in practice it is a more vague thing than I expected.

As long as the day 8 prediction isn't right, we'll be OK this month. Sex, and more sex is the order of the month. More tiring than expected actually - must be my age!

Charting is v reassuring already. It does help to have a clear idea of what's going on, especially towards the end of the month. I think it appeals to my hidden control freak!

The first chart worked so well it resulted in a positive pg test, although I mc'd at week 5. I wonder if that might also be a factor this month.

My motto must be watch, record and shag alot.

Has the temping worked for you?

So very many congratulations! That's the very best type of news.

I'm 40 and have just started TTC no1 - I can understand your impatience!

Well, properly for 3 months, but we've actually not been using contraception for 8 months altogether. The first 5 months were a bit hit and miss ... not much urgency and probably an element of subconscious putting it off. I was made redundant last year and we thought we'd wait until I got a new job before we started TTC properly.

We also only got married in September after a bit of a whirlwind romance and thought we should have a bit of a shakedown time too.

Of course, we now think I'm so bloody old that we don't care about my lack of employment and think we should just get on with it!

The concentrated recent effort has at least proved that pg is possible which is a huge relief to to be honest. I was convinced I was the not so proud owner of a pair of wizened ovaries.

Are you full of nerves about your BFP? It sounds like you had a long journey before you arrived where you are. I have to say I admire you for pushing for it - I have a bit of a fear of acknowledging we might have a fertility issue.

I think I may be clinging onto the stick with the BFP and waving it about a lot over the next few months just to remind myself that it is possible. I'm v glad it doesn't smell faintly of wee .

Was there a particular turning point which made you go for the assisted route?

I know that we have subconsciously avoided shagging at the most important time - but there's always that nagging worry at the back of my mind (weren't most of us warned that we'd fall pregnant at the drop of a hat (or even the hint of a shag) ... so why hasn't it happened so far? I'm unsure how long to give the 'proper' trying before we visit the GP.

It's good to hear the process isn't as awful as I thought it might be - how much assistance did you have?

• I wasn't even a teenager when I did that! I remember doing the walk of shame to the pharmacist just 5 years ago when I thought I might have bumped into some sperm and not been properly prepared for them!

If only I'd known then what I know now - I wouldn't have spent a couple of days feeling very, very queasy.

God - was it September this year you started investigating the IVF? It worked far faster than I thought it did. You must be so, so pleased. Was your second round of treatment done at Kings?

I'm trying hard not to get too obsessed with TTC - I'm sure it won't help. I am looking at FF a lot though. And trying to symptom match with the successful month . I know I am ridiculous.