Would you go to see the doctor or just keep trying?

[BestFootForward]

I am TTC and getting a bit fed up! I just need some perspective on whether I should go and see the doctor for some sort of test or if I should just keep trying. I am erring on the side of not seeing the doc as I'm not sure there is anything they can do to help me!
Brief history-
DS1, fell pg on first cycle of trying 2002. DS2, pg on second cycle 2006.
Pregnancy 3, fell pg 2nd cycle, MC 7 weeks May 2008
Pregnancy 4, fell pg 2nd cycle after May MC, MC 11 weeks, September 2008.

So I have now been trying for almost 2 years, it has been 8 months since my last MC. Is it worth having some investigation or is 8 months of trying since my last (failed) pregnancy not enough to warrant any concern?

Thanks for reading if you got through this!

Sorry, 1st MC was March not May.

Firstly, very sorry to hear about your MCs. I'm afraid I really don't know much about it but to hazard a guess I would imagine it depends on your age. If you're over 35 I think they refer you to fertility expert after 6 months ttc, regardless of whether you already have DCs. Otherwise I think it's a year.

Sometimes it just feels good to make an appointment so you can feel you're doing something constructive...

Thanks for replying Higglepig, I am 26 so I probably will have to wait longer to see a specialist. I do want to go to the doctor so that I am doing "something" but my head is telling me there is no point, I already have children so I know I can do it, it's just so disappointing failing every month, I don't really feel like I can move on from the MC until I get pregnant again. I do know how lucky I am already having 2 DC and I try not to obsess too much about getting pregnant again but it's not easy!

I'd just go to the doctor and talk it through. Hopefully you will have a good doctor who can explain that there's probably no problem but just put things into perspective for you. I think how you feel about ttc is just as improtant as the physical side, so just try and get some reassurance and help you get a more positive attitude.

Btw, sorry about your m/c, I'm sure you'll be successful soon. It's hard to keep perspective I know, I've got DD1 and 2 m/c so feel in a similar situation. We know we CAN do it though, it's just hard to remember.

Good luck for us both!! xx

Hi bestfoot. I have primary infertility and I have found a brilliant book called "getting pregnant faster" by Marilyn Glenville. I bought it for about £7 on Amazon (used/second-hand but near-perfect condition). It's interesting all the things you can do to enhance your chances of conceiving and also to maintain the PG. Also it has made me look at my diet and lifestyle a lot. I am cutting out sweets and cake and biscuits and eating much more salad, wholemeal bread, Ryvitas (for the fibre) and I've started a weekly exercise class (for distraction).

I am trying to convince my husband that he needs to look carefully at his diet but he is resisting as he does not like fruit or many veggies or salad items. It is like persuading a 4 year old to eat Brussel Sprouts. I need to find ways of hiding good stuff in the Bolognese Sauce.

Thanks Lexi, I do have a good doctor and I know that there is probably no problem but there is a niggle in the back of my mind saying but what if there is! I have seen plenty of people on here who have had children then suddenly have unexplained infertility, I keep thinking what if that is me! I feel like we have been trying forever now (I know a lot of people have been trying a lot longer than this but that's how it feels) Good luck to you, I will try to absorb some of your positive attitude!

I will have a look at that book KC11, I have been doing lots of healthy eating recently anyway to lose a bit of weight so it sounds like I'm on the right track!

Hi BFF....very sorry to hear about your miscarriages. I would definitely see a doctor just to set your mind at ease. I would also point out that 50% of fertility issues lie with the man so if your hubby isn't in the healthiest of shape, he could be producing less than ideal sperm (which can cause miscarriage). This was the case with me and husband is now on a very healthy regimen. Best of luck.