Need advice please: on risking DH fertilely?

[sleepyeyes]

Hi just wondering if anyone has been in this situation or even from those who haven't but may have an idea.

Basically DH and I have been TTC for a year with very little success, MC in Feb and suspect I may have PCOS which we are about to have looked into. On the whole although terribly broody and impatient I feel hopeful, I'm 24 and we can financially afford IVF or any other sort of intervention if needed. Although we might have to wait a year or two as we are renovating.

My DH has medical condition it cause him a great deal of pain, if he was to take one pill a day the condition basically goes away and no pain any more. This condition has progressively got worse over the past year (he has had it for 15 years) the pain is becoming more frequent, long lasting and painful to the point of being bed ridden at times. luckily he owns his own business from home so work has been fine.
He wont take the pill because there is a high possibly that it will make him infertile.
Basically our agreement was as soon as we had a baby he would start taken this medication but that was before it got so bad. I now think he should freeze some sperm and take the pill. He is worried about the success rate and it being final.

SO what would you do?
Would the NHS freeze his sperm for us and help us conceive or will we have to go private?
How much will it cost?
Anything else we could do?

So confused and worried but cant bare to watch my DH suffer any more.

Hi sleepyeyes

So sorry for what you are both going through! First of all, I think it is beautiful that you are putting your DH needs before your own. If it was me, I would want my partner to be comfortable and pain free! I would also be suggesting that he would start his pill, to ease his pain!

I honestly think u should look nto freezing the sperm, I dont see why the NHS would refuse to do it! It is def worth looking into! Especially if it is impacting on both your lives!

My aunt also had IVF and now have 3 lovely children - although the chances of twins etc is very high!

Good Luck on whatever you decide!

x

I'd agree with you that freezing sperm is the way to go. I can't find out much about costs, but this list from the London Women's Clinic seems to suggest it's not hideously expensive, and this says it may even be available on the NHS.

Go see your GP and ask for a referral. And good luck.

Newmemer I was a nanny for many years (had 2 sets of twins) so that aspect of IVF doesn't worry it is more the worry we would run out and still hadn't conceived.

DH has tried to talk to his DR about this numerous times, each time all he has said is, it will make you infertile it is your choice. No info on sperm freezing etc.
I did wonder if its because DH is nearly 40 and he assumed that he already had kids. But last week when he asked again he also mentioned he got married last year and we would like to have children.
His DR attitude seems to be he is there to give perceptions and that is as far as it goes.

Oldlady: Thank you for those links, very interesting!

The DR does not sound gd at all! I would def seek advice elsewhere!

I dont think your DH age is a hugh problem, 40 is the new 30's! lol

I hope you get more advice, I really think the sperm freezing is the best idea!