Baby Competition!

[boogs]

A big 'Howdy' to all you Mums and ttc women.
I thought I'd start a new tread to satisfy my curiosity, so I hope no-one is offended.
My Mum had 6 girls (does that mean I should be having babies ten to the dozen?). I'm trying for number 2, but miscarried a short while ago, so am in full throttle as far as ttc is concerned (i'm waiting a while! Bummer!) Just wondered how many everyone else has got and how long you've been trying. Is there a super-fertile woman out there with lots of littluns? I need inspiration.....

Hi boogs,

I just wanted to sympathisise. I'm in a similar situation but luckily I'm pregnant again now. I tried for years and years and was terrified I was infertile. Then I got pregnant as soon as I stopped trying!

Since giving birth I have conceived three times, have unfortunately had two miscarriages, but have not been trying any of these times. In my experience the harder you try the less likely it is to happen and when you're not thinking about it too much, it happens.

I know its hard but try to relax and just enjoy making love and I hope you will conceive soon

On three occasions I stopped taking the pill and was pregnant within a month of trying. No frustrating disappointments here. It was always a joke in my husbands family that you only had to wash their undies to get pregnant.

I consider myself very lucky to have had no problems and I really feel for anyone who has to suffer monthly disappointment, it must be truly heartbreaking. I had bleeding throughout the first tri-mester with both boys and both ended up in special care after early deliveries, then DD was readmitted to hospital due to jaundice so it wasn't all plain sailing but I still count my blessings.

Boogs, I hope mother nature looks upon you kindly soon and gives you the baby that you want.

I stopped at 3 because I really couldn't cope with any more children, though I love being pregnant and having a baby to care for. Our house isn't big enough either for any further expansion. My main concern now is that I really don't want an accident, being as fertile as I am.

Not ttc at moment - can't imagine life with a second child, as well as 12 month DD!!!

But, it took us quite a while to conceive too. Tried for a year, got pg. Unfortunately had a mc a 7 weeks. Then took over a year again to conceive. This time all was great and DD was born a year ago, and she is fab!

So - nope, not super-fertile. But hope this give you a bit of a lift to know that others have been there and got through it too.

I'm another lucky one and have got PG straight away. With DS1 I'd been feeling really broody for ages and 'told' DH that we were going to have a baby, as I had decided the time was right. You can imagine the argument we had. Anyway he was working away at the time so only home at weekends. We used a condom on the friday night but not the saturday and I fell PG. DS2 was conceived 17 months later, one month after we decided to start trying and now I'm PG again having again felt broody for ages, well since DS2 was about 5 months actually. DH finally changed his mind on 29th December last year and that night number 3 was concieved.
I always think about how amazingly lucky we are, especially as a few close friends and family have had months of trying and have to admit that I cannot being to imagine the excitment and dissapointment every month, it must be trully awful. I sometimes feel guilty when talking to friends or family because as much as news of a pregnency is good news, it must be difficult to here when they have been trying for months and I come along a announce our news, as happened when we told everyone about No.3.

Good Luck everyone who's TTC

I was under the impression that most pregnancies are unplanned, or at least unscheduled I think that describes many of my friend's kids, too, and my own children. On the other hand, my step-sister finally became a mother at age 40, after around 10 years of trying.

Miscarriages are so "normal". It seems to me like if you try for 2 children, there's a 50% chance you'll have at least one miscarriage, so pretty darn common.

I hope to TTC for the first time in my life in the autumn... with my luck, after previous super-accidental fertility, it will take years! LOL. But that would be ok, too. Contraception is a hassle.

Boogs
I am in hte same situation as you. Fell pg with ds by mistake and thought it would happen really quickly the second time. Have been trying since January so its not been long but am starting to get frustrated. Once you have your mind set on something, its tricky when things don't go according to plan....

Been pregnant three times, took 3 months each time, one baby, one miscarriage and soon to be baby two.

Again very lucky fertility is not a problem in either mine or DP's family.

My DD, now 17, took us 18 mths to conceive. My boys took 4 mths, 7 mths, 7 mths followed by a m/c, then an instant pregnancy (I still don't know how he came to be because I'm sure we did nothing) the month after the m/c. We then had a accident 5 months after DS3 was born which also miscarried.

There have been times when I felt like my whole adult life has been spent trying to get pregnant!

Tried for dd for 3.5 years. Gave up and decided to go for appt re IVF and found out was pg 1 day before the appt!

Pregnant in first month of trying - 2 m/c and tw boys! the latest wasn't really planned - I miscalculated somewhere along the line but we weren't been careful as planned a summer birthday - best laid plans!! no pun intended

I obviously feel like I've had my fair share of trauma with 2 m/c but doo feel awful for people trying to get pregnant as I know how frustrasting waiting for the next month to come is.

Good luck to all those trying!

Thanks for posting everyone! It is inspiring to hear all your (eventuall!) success stories, whether it took weeks, months or years. At the end of the day we're all individuals and we're gonna all have differing fertility rates I guess. I hope everyone who's trying gets there when the time's right, and all those who've had enough of having babies- you've done a great job! xxxxxxx