Worried about ttc after two early miscarriages/chemical pregnancies

[messylittlemonkey]

Hi there

Is anyone else feeling the same?

We have a 3.5 year old DD and decided about a year ago that we would like to have a second child. We started ttc last April (2008). We conceived in May. I had sore boobs for a few days, but then I started spotting around CD28 so presumed it was my period and thought nothing more of it. Then the spotting didn't amount to much so after a couple of days I did a HPT and got a faint positive. the very next day the spotting got a bit heavier and the day after that I developed lower abdominal cramps. By CD35 I got a heavy period with a fair bit of clotting and that was that.

We waited three months (as advised by GP) before ttc again. We tried for a couple of months Sept/Oct time but didn't conceive in that time. I then developed a very severe pain in my lower abdomen which lasted for several weeks, so we didn't ttc during that time.

We started ttc again in December and by CD 18 I had really sore boobs and knew that we had conceived. It was around this time that I got a very nasty flu like virus which knocked me out and during this my period started, heavy again with clots like the last mc.

That was four cycles ago and there's no reason why we shouldn't ttc again, but I'm just feeling very anxious about having another chemical pregnancy or worse, a mc further down the line. We do want another baby although we are happy with having just one child. I keep thinking there's never going to be a good time to ttc again and what will be will be.

Sorry for the ramble!

MLM

Hi messylittlemonkey - I am sorry about your loss. I also mc earlier this year. I think you are right there never is a perfect time - but I do want another dc and so we will keep trying for as long as it takes. But only try when you are ready, I think it is natural to fell anxious - it's really such a personal thing when you feel ready.

Hi messylittlemonkey

I'm in the same boat as you i had a chemical pregnacy last september, very anxious to get pg again we tryed again, in Dec we found out we were pg nice crimbo pressie! Then went for our 12 week scan to find baby died at 9 weeks so had to go in and have it removed. we want anouther child but am beginnig to think it's not going to happen. I was feeling positive up until now, Having a bad day today. I have had a period since the mc but am very anxious now wanting to be pg but scared if it happens again.
Hope things work out for you. xx

Sorry to both of you, it's so hard.

I have just being doing a bit pof research about miscarriages and have got a potential lead in my case.

Earlier this year, when I was unwell, I had blood tests and one of them showed that my TSH (Thyroid Stimulating Hormone) was a bit high. I was told to get retested in 6 months time. I've just found quite a bit of info online about TSH/thyroid problems causing recurrent mc.

I've just called my GP surgery to arrange to have repeat blood tests in a fortnight.

Good luck to you both

MLM

messylittlemonkey - well at least that is positive action ifywim. I don't know much about it but my sis in law has a thryoid condition and was told that it increases the risk of miscarriage - so you may be on the right track. Goodluck.

mlm - I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriages. I don't know if you've come across Prof Lesley Regan's book Miscarriage: What every woman should know, but I found it very useful for understanding the various causes of miscarriage (even though I still don't know what caused mine). It also helped me to realise that the chances of a successful pregnancy after recurrent miscarriage are actually very high.

Having had three early miscarriages, I can completely understand the feelings of ambivalence towards trying again. I'm currently 5 months' pregnant, and tbh, the feelings of ambivalence and emotional detachment continued for the first 3 or 4 months of this pregnancy.

I hope you get some useful information on what might have caused your miscarriages, and that you can make the right decision for you about trying again.