Id really like some advice if anyone can spare a minute or two :)

[QueenofVenus]

I have 3 children from a prev relationship, my dp has 1 child from prev relationship, we have been trying for almost 6 months to get preg and nothing, nothing at all he never had any prev probs and neither have i, we just cant understand it, anyone ever experienced similar? im feeling really down about it all. Its so frustrating

DD - we managed within 6 weeks. DS - took just over a year. No obvious reason why. Same partner but an example of how different it can be.

I don't think 6 months is that long actually but I totally understand your frustration.

Can I ask how old you are? If you're over 35 you might want to think about going to gp as they say to do this if you've been trying for six months or more. I think it's 2 years if you're under 35.

Also, have you been on the pill or anything? That can affect things for a while.

Good luck, don't get downhearted! I've just started ttc again myself when it took us a year for dd, so we'll see.

if you do go to the GP, lie and say it's been a year - 2 if you can. You'll get referred a lot sooner.

The fact you have kids already will possibly mean your options on the NHS are limited (Ie IVF) but they should give you blood tests.

thanks mcab - that does make me feel better, raspberryblower, i just turned 30 last week (eeek!) i guess i know 6 months isnt that long, i have just been spoilt before as it took no time at all, so 6 months feel like its forever and it'll never happen (im obviously not the most patient person !)

Beanieb - i had blood test last week for progesterone i just got results this morning which were satisfactory no further action, does that mean it could be dp?

It could be you or him or nothing at all. I think they would do more blood tests (we need Atilla here to explain I think!) on different days and compare the two.

Would he be prepared to do a sperm test? Things can change over time.

But honestly 6 months isn't a long time, so keep trying

We took 18mths of trying with dd and even though I was 35 the NHS told me to go away and keep going til we had tried for 2 yrs.

With DS however (now 8 wks old) he was a one night 'oh don't worry about precautions, I'll never get pregnant, it took ages with ds' chap.

Just shows how different things can be for the same couple.

At 30 I wouldn't worry just yet. Try and destress about it a bit (actually conceieved DD on a skiing holiday on what was possibly one of the most drunken nights of my life.. and that is saying something) - ermm, obviously not suggesting getting wasted as an aid to conception

Lmao imoverhere! thanks ever so much for cheering me up everyone i really do feel alot better about it all now, i was obviously ENORMOUSLY lucky with my other 3. I'll go away and work at my patience levels