Do you just concentrate on bd at your fertile time

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Hi
After ttc for 10 months without any luck I have decided to start using opk's and I have purchased a clearblue monitor.
Before I didn,t want to make things too stressful with timed sex etc but I have become desperate now.
So I was just wondering what do others do do you just bd when you detect your lh surge etc or do you also think its wise to bd at other times of the month also.

We tried a method I found on another thread. BD every other day starting day 10 (I started day 6). As soon as you get a +ive OPK BD that night, the next, the next, have one night off then BD the night after. Finally after 10 months it worked but only used the method the last 2 months. Have been temping too as that was more accurate at showing OV day as sometimes I got +ive OPKs 5 days in a row. My OV varied so much. Good luck!

Some 'experts' especially doctors will tell you not to focus so much on your fertile time and BD every 2 days or so. Who has time for that???? Certainly not me.

My view is that I wanted to optimise chances so like HC above used temping and OPKs and followed that plan.

We did it every other day all cycle apart from my period () - happened very quickly all 3 times that way!

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Would urge you not to do any rigourous timing of intercourse - that puts pressure on the relationship. It certainly won't maximise your chances either. Make love instead when you both feel like it, you need to take the pressure off. Two or three times a week throughout the month is fine. Certainly don't get into the "oh we won't make love before day 10" lark.

What are your periods like - if they are irregular in nature OPK's are worse than useless in such circumstances. It is also not correct to assume that there is only one LH surge - LH surges can happen throughout the month. This is also where OPK's fall down; these assume that a rise in LH is immediately followed by ovulation. Not so. Also if you are one of many women who produces higher than average levels of LH the kit reads that.

Ovulation is not an exact science and it can happen earlier, later or not at all in ANY given cycle.

You don't say how old you are but generally speaking gynaes like to see women over 35 if they have been ttc for 6 months wihtout success; 12 months if under 35. You are near the 12 month mark as it is and I think you'd be better off seeking medical advice sooner rather than later. In your case I'd actually seek medical advice now and see if simple tests can actually pick up a problem.

The GP can do a blood test for you and a semen analysis for your man to start with. If he doesn;t do that you will be referred to a gynae at a subfertility unit.

You need a diagnosis first and foremost. Subfertility is not the sole preserve of the woman either. This is why both of you should be further investigated.

I tried for 4 years with DD, never timed it happened when it happened. 18 months of trying now for #2 and I still have no desire to have timed bd, I enjoy it, so I think in my case it would take the enjoyment away and make it clinical, the bd for me is not just about making a baby.
Good luck in whatever you decide.