Having a long day...

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Hello, I just thought I would drop in. I watch your threads with interest. Get so much just from reading your tips and support.

I've been off the pill for 11mths. Have ffound it harder to feel positive as the months have passed by.

On Sun I took a test. Neg. However it was a day before my period was due (Monday). But today is Wed and still no show. I am never late, if anything, a day early. Just really hoping that test was wrong. I don't feel preganant but I do feel little cramps, very slight but not leading to a period! Don't want to do another test as I don't want to see a neg and like to hold on to the idea that I could just be pregnant. Going to the toilet every two seconds to check! Trying not to get too anxious....oh please!

I would wait until Saturday and test again if you haven't come on.

Are your cycles regular? With DD i had a negative on the day i was supposed to come on and then a VERY faint positive the day after.

I am usually very regular. Always have been. Still no sign.....

Waiting till Sat seems sensible but I'm not sure I can hold out. Maybe Friday. How much of a difference is there in the levels of hormones from one day to the next? That Tesco test could have been wrong!?

I think you're supposed to wait 3 days between a negtive test and testing again to give the hormones a chance to build up.

Or you can go get a first repsonse and report back .

I'm about to go home. THink I might get a first response on the way. I just looked at the web site. At least I suppose I'll know one way or another....

Feeling really nervous but need to know! I take it that is the best test to use.

I don't know if its the best, but i've used it early and got a pos.

Good luck.

Morning. I used the first response and got a neg result.

But, I don't have any sign of my period. It just doesn't feel like it's coming. I live in hope.

It came

I'm sorry. I know it's difficult and disheartening. It took me a long time and a miscarriage to get pregnant.

I saw a lovely kiwi GP after my mc who was very reassuring. He said that it takes a normal, healthy couple doing everything right and caring for themselves, an average of a year to get pregnant. He said that the UK was the only place he had ever worked where we worry about it taking a year and in all other countries he had practiced they don't even begin fertility tests until 2yrs of trying for a healthy couple. He also reminded me that having sex at exactly the right time only gave a 30% chance of conception.

I know none of this really helps when all you want is to be pg. It seems mad that you spend years preventing it and it turns out to be quite a difficult thing to achieve after all. But remembering his words helped me keep it somewhat in perspective and see it as 'normal' as opposed to 'what the hell is wrong with me'.

Good luck to you.

Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. It really does mean so much. As I write this I feel such dispare. So many of my friends are pregnant and they are never slow to tell me that they only had to look at each other. one even asked me if we we're doing it on the right days...like we're stupid or just not trying hard enough. With this all around me I had been starting to feel such fear. I am now calming down and thinking that all will happen in good time. Thank you for sharing xx

Oh I'm glad it helped. I do worry that it sounded a little 'relax, chill out' which is ridiculous when you're disappointed month after month.

I remember only too well the tales of 'just call me fertile myrtle, he only looked at me sideways (giggle giggle)' and the venom that I felt not towards them but to the seeming unfairness of it all.

It's a strange old business. I do sincerely wish you luck with it.

I suggest when they ask you if you're doing it at the right time you feign surprise and declare that you didn't know you'd be expected to have sex. You thought it was just a special cuddle after all.