Ooof!!!!!!!!!!! What a Cheek!!!!!!!

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He says sex with me chore!!!!! i ll give him bloody chores!!!

TTC #2, i ve put a bit of weight on ( 2st ) after having DS (aged 21mnths) so i ve lost a bit of confidence in the bedroom department, but why is it men can NEVER understand that?? now we are TTC #2 and tbh im a lil obsessed with the fact i want a DD!! i ve marked out all on my calender what we should be doing and when eg :-

he should be wearing tight undies,
he should be having hot showers just before we "do it"
he should be going for a .... (i dont think i need to say the word )
dairy products etc

then it came to last night he was on the net in the bedroom, and i wraped my arms around him and started kissing his neck etc but he just pushed me away, we had blazing row untill 4:00am cos i was trying to get him to see how rejected i felt and in return i had its become a chore, your boring and dont move around much

how do i get him to want to have sex with me and to make it fun? my friend suggested porn, but im not sure thats so good?

i did get my own back mind!!! i showed him what chores were!!! he had to clean the bathroom

Your list of rules makes it sound like a chore tbh.

Poor you it is so hard when you want a baby and they won't put out at the right times. We were trying for my DS for 8 months and DH felt like there was a gun to his head and he said he just didn't feel turned on by that kind of pressure. In the end I stopped talking about "good days" and just tried to get as much sex as I could out of him (and let him believe that it was all about how desirable he was). Trying random places in the house at random times might help, good luck hon

scrap the "what we should be doing" and scrap the "we are trying for a baby" talk. have sex as often and as spontanely as you can x

ps id get a bit p*ssed off if i was ur husband, tone it down and just concentate on making love not making babies

ps, remember you cant choose the sex, it will be what it will be....

Sorry, but it does sound like a chore. Sex should be something loving and fun between a couple and if you do conceive then even better. I know you want a baby but you should have one if you have lots of great sex.

yeah - keep the mechanical side of making a baby to yrself. I found sharing anything conception related with dh was a complete turnoff.

So me sticks, calandar et all was my little secret. We just happened to have hot dates leading to great sex on those days

buy him some nice fitted pants and beer. Go out. Have some fun

we just had a lovely relaxing bath together with candles etc felt so good we had a talk and decided that we ARE going to scrap the list and just enjoy our selves! he said "thanks MNers you can see what he's up against!!" the cheeky bugger

wish me luck on the baby making front anyways !!! night night x x x x

awww gd luck!

Good luck I am 25 weeks pg with baby 2 and DH asked me if it was his when I told him as he didn't remember "trying" this time but I can assure you we were!

It took us 15 months to conceive our 18mth old, but for parts of that we just weren't having enough sex at the right times. DH went on strike a few times claiming that he felt like a performing monkey!!

DH is keen to try for #2 soon, but this time around I am not going to let him know when I'm ovulating and try not to put any pressure on him at all. He used to moan that I was never the one to instigate sex, but when TTC last time, he didn't actually like me instigating it as he felt pressure to perform!

I def agree with the advice already given - relax, no pressure, don't make making love all about making babies (even if that is how you feel).