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DH testicle damage

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eth37 · 12/02/2009 14:25

OK sorry about this ladies but I would really really appreciate some advice. I am in a bit of a pickle. We have been TTC for 6 months now (both 27, TTC our first) and we have only just started to talk about something that i have been REALLY concerned about for a long time.
When DH was 14, he had a football injury which involved him being kicked in the testicle very hard. Consequently, one of them is (sorry if this is gross) basically not there, it's just skin. DH really really won't talk about it. In fact, we have only talked about it once in the last 10 years, which was the day we first had sex and he told me why it was like it was. I hadn't really thought about it until TTC time. BAsically, do you know/think it could affect our chances? I am fairly convinced it could and when I tried, v gently, to bring it up when AF arrived (again...), he looked like he was going to cry, and said 'do you think that's something I don't think about every single day?' I don't know what to do. I love him so so so much, and don't want to upset him by bringing it up again, and the thought of us not having a baby together makes me cry. I read in a book that testicle damage caused in teenage years can prohibit sperm production permanently and feel so sad. He says he went to the Dr when it happened but he claims not to be able to remember what they said. Please help, I feel so so sad about this and don't know what to do.

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Lizzylou · 12/02/2009 14:31

A frined of ours had exactly the same injury (through football again!) and they had their 2nd child last year.
It did take them a while to conceive the first DC, if I remember correctly.

mears · 12/02/2009 14:31

The best thing to do would be to get him to visit the GP to talk it through. It would be sensible to get a sperm check done although your DH may wish to avoid that incase he gets confirmation of his fears. However, it may well be reassuring and put both your minds at rest. Worrying about it is never going to help either of you. You need to see a doctor.

notmeforthemo · 12/02/2009 14:32

hi, hope you dont mind the name change but am sharing dp stuff!

my dp has 1 that is kind of just the skin there after being stabbed in the groin when he was younger which caused some injury! we have 3 children. it may just be we were very lucky, but theres no harm in getting it checked out is there? maybe if you say you'll go for a check up for you first itll encourage him.

good luck, i hope it happens soon for you!

eth37 · 12/02/2009 14:35

lizzylou that is good to hear. mears I know, you are right, but I don't know how I can get him to go. I have been to the GP a few times, and she says we have not been trying long enough yet. I asked DH if we should both go (as obviously I could have problems) and he said he would go too in 4 months. I suppose I am just hoping someone has a positive story for us. Any other advice/opinions greatly welcomed...

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eth37 · 12/02/2009 14:37

Thanks notmeforthemo that is v good to hear. Your poor DP getting stabbed, how awful. But v good that you have 3 chn. Do you mind me asking if it took you a while to conceive? Thanks for sharing that.

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notmeforthemo · 12/02/2009 14:43

not very nice no he nearly bled to death! however, it did take about 4/5 months with no1, 2 months with no2 and 1mnth with no3 so we've been very fortunate. A friend of mine is currently pg but it took her about 6mnths to conceive! they have 1 dd and everything in working order so to say!

pooka · 12/02/2009 14:59

My uncle had pretty major testicular damage as a young boy when he fell through a greenhouse roof.

I have four cousins! It did take them a while to conceive their first. I can remember my grandmother taking me to a convent in Cornwall where she lit a candle. She (joking) said that she'd lit a candle when she was worried that d aunt was sad about not having any children, and she wanted to light a reversing candle now they had 4 boys.

katster37 · 12/02/2009 15:49

Don't have any advice but just wanted to say it sounds like there are plenty of people out there who have conceived successfully with similar problems. This might sound stupid but if it is only one, surely all you need it one to work? Sorry, if that is a really silly thing to say...

Blondeshavemorefun · 12/02/2009 16:06

a friends dp has the same = only has one testicle - they have 2 children - they took 6mths to conceive and when thy went to see their doctor, he said you only need one healthy testicle to concieve, just as woman who has one ovary can also conceieve

hth

the only way you will ever know for sure is to get dh sperm tested

but from others messages on here, and my friends exp, i am sure there is nothing to worry about

it took another friend 2years to conceieve, and he had 2

give you dh a huge hug and say that you love him, and IF you dont concieve there are other routes to try - sperm donor and ivf etc

Newb · 13/02/2009 12:16

eth it really is true that it only takes one swimmer to make a baby. It sounds from what others have said that having one rather than two doesn't make a big difference. And as backup, there are vitamin supplements that boost sperm production (eg Wellman) and ICSI is a kind of IVF where they only need to find about 10 sperm in a whole sample (rather than usual 20 million) to inject directly into the egg.

eth37 · 13/02/2009 17:41

newb I have just googled ICSI and it sounds v interesting. I had not heard of it, but v positive success rates as well. We will see what happens I guess. I am not very good at dealing with uncertainty though and just want DH to feel 'adequate' IYSWIM.

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katemumtwo · 16/02/2009 23:59

Having one not a problem! My H lost one to cancer but we managed to get two dcs each in the first month of trying... PS I'm here as number 3 has now taken over a year, but I think this is my problem and am having basic hormone tests (prolactin etc) this week. I'm a bit concerned over where the missing one is with your DH though - did he have it taken out or is it 'up there' somewhere?

ABetaDad · 17/02/2009 00:14

As long as the other testicle is working OK and no damage to the tube that leads to the prostate and to the outside then there should be no problem.

Have you any idea just how many sperms a man produces from each testicle? It really is an enormous number. Easily enough to inseminate every woman on the planet each week.

You only need 1 sperm to get a baby so I am absolutley sure things wil just be fine and if not it wil not be anything to do with the testicle that is missing.

ataraxic · 05/05/2024 12:01

Hi OP,
I know this thread is more than a decade old, but may I please know if you eventually got pregnant?

Blondeshavemorefun · 05/05/2024 13:45

ataraxic · 05/05/2024 12:01

Hi OP,
I know this thread is more than a decade old, but may I please know if you eventually got pregnant?

15yrs old

But yes Hope op got preg

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