Suggestions for positive visualisations/ affirmations around successful conception?*

[Thandeka]

This is going to sound very new agey of me- but I have come to the conclusion I am incredibly negative around this trying to get pregnant malarky and I need to a) Rewire my brain into a more positive mindset b) once its in a positive mindset then stop thinking about it!! Haha! If only.

I have a conception hypnotism cd which I am going to make more of an effort to listen to but the womans voice annoys me slightly but I randomly just decided to type a transcript of what she said (thinking perhaps I could alter some of it to suit me better then read it back to myself) and it was then I realised quite how negative I had become (eg. cd said- imagine turning dial to Maximum fertility, and my internal mind snorted and went haha dial stuck on "subfertility" sorry it aint shifting!- obviously a mindset like that is never ever going to help me get pregnant!)

Anyhow bit of a waffly post but basically was hoping some mumsnetters might have some other good positive affirmations, visualisations I can do to help rewire my brain!

The best I came up with is a mantra of "I can and will get pregnant"

(also vaguely thinking of hitting myself hard with a stick whenever I think of anything negative around ttc- so I learn not to think like that! haha!)

*Also thinking "trying to concieve" could be a negative way of thinking (like you aint supposed to say "given up smoking" but "stop smoking" as given up is negative but "Stop smoking is positive) but am struggling with an alternative! "I am going to get pregnant" doesnt quite sound right!

Any ideas?

Try to unwind however you can; be it a long candle lit soak in the bath, or by reading poetry, or meditation. Even if you just take some time to breathe, taking deep breaths and clearing your mind and focussing only on your breaths. Remind yourself to stay positive and yes you can try your mantra!
You can do it!

I read somewhere once that people are more likely to get knocked up if they have lovely pictures of mothers and babies around the house - so when I was TTC I put up some lovely arican wall-hangings that I had that were batiks of mothers and babies. Might be a nice positive thing?

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Yep, baby holding and being around newborns. Well-known phenomenem in the workplace!

Good luck and great that you're trying to take control of the situation .

There are different hypno-CDs.

I have two. On the first, I can hear the woman's nose whistle when she breathes and it does talk about getting rid of fears re conceiving. The second, by Patti Good, is less annoying (except for when she says "rose blossoms" and I am sure she means blooms, since roses don't have blossoms...(pedant, sorry))and more about relaxation and then follows with affirmations (I trust my body etc). You might want to try another CD!

The (daily) affirmations on the second one (thanks Patti) are:

I trust my body
I feel deeply calm and relaxed
Each day I feel more peaceful and in control
I am patient and know my baby will come to me at the perfect time (I really like this one)
I feel safe and secure
Each day I feel fitter and healthier
It feels good to nourish my boy with wholesome food
I joyfully anticipate conceiving and nurturing my baby
I feel whole and feminine
I feel ready for parenthood
I am able to relax and go with the flow
I feel confident in my ability to nurture and love my baby
I trust mother nature
I feel physically and emotionally ready for a baby in my life
There is space in my life for a baby
I feel deeply connected with my body
I am able to communicate honesty and sensitively with my partner
I welcome my emotions, knowing they are serving me
I am open to receiving on every level
I deeply trust myself and my intuition

I have just conceived again (let's hope this one is in my uterus for a change). I do think that this month I was putting less pressure on myself. I've just become unemployed and when I was working I wanted to get pg quickly while I had maternity rights etc. As soon as I lost my job I started thinking "what will be will be" and I stopped thinking of a baby as the key to my happiness. I know how tempting it is to slap people who tell yo to relax, but it is really important to be sure you are not connecting having a baby with happiness (not least for your own self-preservation). Sorry if that sounds patronising - I think it has helped me.

mrshappy i love that post,ur right!! it can be so hard to keep perspective on the whole ttc thing,wishing u lots and lots of love an luck with ur new bean x x

I love the "I am patient and my baby will come to me at the perfect time"

Thanks Mrs Happy!

Mrs Happy that's fantastic! You're soooo right. I do hope this pregnancy works out for you.

Thandeka, my advice is similar. I tried for 3 years to get pregnant and when we decided to give up and get on with life, started planning our future based on what we have, not what we can't have I fell pregnant almost instantly.

It's a difficult place to get to - we are starting to try for our second now - but these are the affirmations I will now use to get me back to where I was last time to stop me going crazy....

Actually I have been thinking about this and realised I am more ambivalent than I thought about having a baby NOW- I'm 27 and my career is just taking off- so in a way I should be able to switch my brain off about it but I can't bah! My mum tried for 3 years for me and also was a she "gave up and it happened" so I can live with that- what a cool 30th birthday present!

So brain is rewiring into "what will be will be" oh yes it is.

This is a lovely thread, what a good idea!

MrsHappy good luck and I hope things work out!

I had some hormone issuess (thyroid) last year and so TTC has taken us far longer than I ever thought it would. I think I may put "I am patient and know my baby will come to me at the perfect time" on the inside of my wardrobe so I see it everyday!

Good luck everybody, lets hope a bit of positive thinking helps us all