Keep me feeling positive - 39 yer old trying for DC2!!

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We're trying for DC2 and I'm just feeling a bit down at the moment - convinced it won't happen - I'm 39 and had DS when I was 36 - I got pregagnant last year but lost it - we've been trying for the last 5 months. Feel free to tell me I'm being silly - but I just keep panicking that I'm too old.....I know there are loads of over 40 mums - I just need a nudge to keep me positive that it can work out ok.

I conceived DD2 (DC3) when I was 41.I had a problem between DD1 (4) and DD2(2) which is probably to be expected,a blighted ovum.But all in all I have been very lucky.

It seems to take longer to conceive,I tried as soon as DD1 was 6 mths,and fell pregnant(successfully) when she was 18mths.

Percevere,I'm sure it'll happen when its meant to. Good Luck.

Thanks - I know it can happen..I just it get scared it won't (this broody thing is awful 5 or so years ago I didn't even think I wanted children!!)

Yes it can be hard.

I waited for 8 years to have DD1,as DS was from a previous marriage.

I had first son at 36 and second at 41. It takes much longer generally. It took 3 months for first child and over 18 months for second. I found the ovulation sticks useful and when I went to my GP after nearly a year of trying she told me to sit on her 'lucky chair'. I hadnt seen her before and thought she was a bit of a nutter. Three months later she retired taking her 'lucky chair' with her and I was pregnant......

A miscarriage isnt that unusual at our ages. My consultant told me to tell him if I suffered an early miscarriage as this is a good sign that you can get pregnant.

The fact that you have had a child already is the best signal of all.

Thanks - your making me feel better already - I think I'll have to keep this thread to hand and whip it out when I need a postive boost. For me I'm sure that state of mind has a lot to do with my ability to get pregagnt - both times before its happened when I wasn't trying - we tried for about 6 mths for DS - then one month we didn't try as such (as we moved house), ditched the temping, everything (apart from obviously having sex at least once!!) and got pregnant. So I'm sure that if I can feel more positive it will help my chances. I feel a bit mad wanting another as I'm so lucky to have DS and I found the baby stage soo hard - but the feeling of wanting another is just too overwhelming.

Nearly 40 here, and DC3 is coming up for 2. We weren't trying (OK, he was a mistake!), and having had fertility treatment previously you can imagine our surprise!

Good luck...

Thanks Paolosgirl

Hi there - I am in your boat too - also 39 TTC#2. The good news is that apparently older mums are more likely to have twins yikes - think that is good news...
Just relax - if its meant to happen then it will! Good luck!

Twins - yikes - what a scary thought!!!. This thread is really helping - feeling really down tonight - we've just found out SIL is expecting - really thrilled for her and quite excited about being an aunty but can't help feeling tearful and down (and then Cr*p for being so selfish). Thanks all.

nearly 39 in march, have had a sterilisation reversal over 2 years ago, nothing for the 1st 18 months, but i have been pregnant twice in the last 6 months, sadly i miscarried, but i didnt think i would ever get pregnant. have to keep my chin(s) up and believe it will happen again. if you are really worried then go see your gp, it wouldnt do any harm. and you are not too old, i understand you are worried, but you got pregnant last year, so that shows that things are working.

Bitchyfanny thanks for your story - I hope it works out for you soon. I think I'm going to give it a couple more months and then go and get checked out by our GP - I'm having to write this month off for trying as poor DH was recovering from pnuemonia and I had a horrid cold just at the time I would be ovulating. I know 39 is not too old.... (my grandmother had my mum at 40, my mum had me at 36...so err older mums run in the family)its that every so often I get in a panic and just feel so overwhelmed by the broodiness. All the best to you all.