desperate for a girl

[freesia]

anybody any ideas on conceiving daughters, i have 3 boys and really want a baby girl, any ideas.

Chunkypie, there was another thread on this subject a while ago. It may sound flippant to you to be concerned about a baby's sex but there can be problems in the family that affect how the mother feels about a particular sex. For instance my mother really favoured my brother so much that I grew up with virtually no self esteem. Her mother had done the same to her. Having had one DD I was desperate to break the pattern & have a 2nd DD.

When DS1 was born I had quite bad PND because he was a boy & I was really frightened of repeating the family pattern. To try to break the pattern we had a 3rd child (& then a 4th). I found myself completely unable to cope with 4 under 6s & nearly tearing my hair out because my only thought was to make my family different from my mums.

Inevitably the 4th was a very placid & easy baby & became the favourite.... so I've just made it all worse. It has taken probably until the last year or so when they have all been at secondary school (& lots of counselling) to be able to feel that our family is OK. I should have had the counselling before the children, but then hindsight is a wonderful thing.

Life isn't quite so cut & dried as you think.

I do not feel that life is cut & dry atall & I am sorry if I offended anyone, I did not intend to.
All I am saying is basically that you should not have a baby just to have a certain sex, or it could lead to very similar problems to the ones that you experianced in your chilhood eg: regection, favouritism & bonding problems when child is born (especially if mother thinks they have done everything correct 2 concieve a certain sex & they get the other)
You should make sure that you are having a baby because you want a baby and not because you only want a certain sex, as that could be a recipie 4 disaster. After all u can't send a baby back just because it wasn't the type u ordered!
I am well aware that incidences in childhood can badly affect how u feel as an adult, I always felt less loved than my younger sister.
And I too suffered from pd after my second child as it was a very unplanned pregnancy & I felt out of control & as responsible 4 the fact ny dh was not happy about the situation.
After ds2 was born I was put on ad's & given 12 wks of counslling which helped a lot.
So basically I do not think life is cut & dry atall, I am saying that nobody should plan a baby just on the off chance that it of a particular sex & not to forget that there r so many people who would love nothing more than 4 there child to be healthy.

By the way, I must take my hat off 2 u tallulah.
Coping with 4 under 6 can't have been atall easy for you & I admire u 4 grtting through it. I know that I would be a wreck in that situation. I find it hard enough at times coping with my 2!!

I had never considered that our having 3 girls is related to being veggie.
do you think wetsuits are the same as tight pants for killing male sperm? dp is an avid windsurfer, I'd be fascinated if that was the reason.

and we have a sauna at home too, no wonder we have all girls according to these anecdotes.

Chunkypie, thanks

fennel- we are also veggie & I have 3 boys....

But the vegitarian this must be a load of toffee, as there are countries where vegitarianism is the norm and they still have a healty boy/girl ratio.

Yes I think we can safely say that the vegie bit is a load of rubbish.
Dh & I have some good friend's who r both very strict veggies & they have 2 boy's