AF arrived this weekend and now planning at October bump.. Any joiners?!

[FlorenceB]

Feeling really blue after AF has arrived.. This was my first attempt at TTC after first MC back in Dec.. The only way I could get over my MC was by hoping to fall again and it just hasn't happened.. Feeling truly gutted.. And to top it off DH and I only have Feb and April to now try as he is away with work in March and May.. And I don't even want to think about June yet.. Anyone else out there feeling just as blue?

FlorenceB - so sorry to hear you are feeling so low about this. I had a MC last April, and I got preg in August (knowing about it in Sept). I know it is hard to be patient when you want something so badly, and time goes one day at a time, but do try and it will happen soon.

FlorenceB-am so sorry to hear about your MC and AF arriving. Hope you have more luck this month. If my AF doesn't arrive next week my due date would be 1st October. Feel free to join us here if you would like to. A few of us have had a MC (me too) and gone one to have a successful pregnancy. We also talk about other mad daily things on there hence the title.

Lots of luck to you.

humphrey - I am your other thread too! see ya over there! Come and join Florence.

Howdy Pavlov-long time no see!

Hi florenceB Im feeling blue big style, AF arrived with agonising pain today, im on another thread with HC but there are so many BFP's over there Im feeling very down, TTC #2 after 14 yrs of trying on and off, DH and myself are both fine, just one of those things !!!

Hi florenceb I was on the 2WW thread with you and I got my AF on Saturday. So yes please would love another thread for some support through this. I am so sorry you are feeling down florence, I do know how you are feeling...
I think I thought I would fall relatively easily because I did with with DS... we weren't actually 'trying' as such but fell really easily (considering was supposed to be using condoms for a year before TTC ) and this month I really thought had cracked it - BDed loads at the right time, so either it wasnt the right time at all or just going to be difficult for me to conceive, it is depressing and the wait inbetween is hard lets stick together tho and keep fingers crossed for each other!

my AF arrived on Thursday, so can I join too? Had two consecutive mcs last year so am feeling really concerned it's not going to happen for me again. I have one DS, now 21 months, who was conceived om the second attempt. What a miracle he was!

Hi gateau I think you were on the September thread...hello to Dawni too sorry you are both feeling down...maybe we should start our own thread but not have a month in the title as I think that is bit too much pressure!
I started off all excited about TTC and being on a TTC thread as did not discover MN til after DS born, now starting to feel a bit flat and want to get off TTC thread and on the Ante natal thread
Obviously I am now aiming for an October baby but would be late in Oct... so should be OV end of the month but think am going to get OPK for the first time as it is slowly sinking in that not going to be as easy as first thought!
sorry for ramble...

hi florenceb i also had a miscarriage in december and am desperately trying to get pregnant too. I haven't even ovulated yet i don't think! its been 29 days since my miscarriage, how long after yours did you get your period?? i know exactly how you feel, its rubbish ttc knowing you should be 5 months pregnant

Yep, rosycheeks, I remember you too.
Have been deiberating ove whther to get OPK or not, but don't think I'll bother as I think I'll get even more obsessed and even more down if I don;t get pg this cycle.
Just trying to BD every other nigth or so. And we've already failed on that, as too bloody tired at night!

Hey everyone.. Sorry, I disappeared. Still feeling really blue and my period (first after MC) was soooo heavy it was untrue. .. And so painful. To top it off, MIL died at the weekend and then yesterday my SIL had a baby.. Now I have a horrible cough / cold.. Everything's really getting to me!

BOO HOO!

Oh my God Florence, thats terrible, how is your DH coping. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate atm

Hello FlorenceB - thought I might join in on this shiny newish thread aswell since your comments struck a chord with me - I had a very sudden, scary MC in Nov - the day of my 12 week dating scan.

It has been a long wait, but my first horribly heavy, painful and wickedly hormonal AF has just packed her bags and left, so now I hopefully know what my cycle is doing and can plan BD a bit better this month I cannot believe how blue this AF made me feel - today, it feels like a black cloud has lifted and I can think clearly again thank goodness - I was beginning to think I was clinically depressed !

I think next AF would be due Feb 16th ish, so am hoping for a Valentines BFP This is my last chance to have a baby before my 40th birthday.

Sorry to hear you are having such a bad time at the moment

Hey everyone - thanks for the support! I sound full of doom and gloom don't I? I am usually so positive too, so all this sadness and negative feeling is weird..

Anyway, Joolsiam my next period is due on Valentine's, so I am hoping for a Valentine's BFP too!!

littlemiss26 I was desperate to kknow what my body was doing, so I started doing OPK as soon as I started bleeding after my MC, which was on the 21st Dec roughly, I did them all the way through and I ovulated on the 31st, so 21 days afer MC..

Will be back later! xx

Hi all,
Very much in the same situation as some here - I had a mmc in early Dec, a lovely libido round xmas but a big fat AF in early Jan.

I'm feeling very low just now and just can't lift myself out of it. I bought opks for the first time after the mmc in case I fell pregnant and I could accurately date things so scans with no heartbeat wouldn't happen, but I'm just not getting on with them. Too many awkward rules like room temperature wee, 2 hours after a drink, between certain times, etc. Supposed to be ovulating now, but the opks don't even have the faintest of pink lines - nada. Which is frustrating me because I was defo getting them at the right time after my mmc! grrrr. And I've had weird pains since erpc. And I can never remember to make a doc's appointment about them before they shut. And I really don't want another Nov/Dec baby but it's looking increasingly more likely (IF I ever get pg and stay pg again!!!). And DH has man flu and isn't up for BDing. And nor am I in the mood really. And I know if I don't I'll be beating myself up about it come AF time.

So, so cruel.

Sorry to be a whinge. Fingers crossed for us all.

Hello to banjaxed and joolsiam, I am sorry to hear about your mc, I have never experienced it (touch wood emoticon)but it must be dreadful..
Unfortunatley it is too late for me to another baby before my 40th birthday as I reached the big 40 last year, so another reason for needing a BFP asap, as I jsut dont want to be too damn old!
I also feel bad about saying I dont want another January baby, but its not for me its for the LO, I feel so sorry for them having their birthday in January so near to Christmas in bad weather with everyone skint! And if we do have another one then it will be two birthdays and christmas to pay for! okay mabye it is a bit for me as well... anyway enough wittering what I mean to say is I want a BFP this month!!!!

Can I join? I have been ttc no2 for 2 years now. I am breastfeeding which seems to be the cause, but although there is an explanation for not conceiving, it is still a bit meh each month when AF arrives.

It is also a year since I had a very early MC at 6 weeks. I had hoped that I would have been pg again by the due date for that one which was Sept last year, but no such luck.

I have started using progesterone cream to lengthen my luteal phase, so hopefully might see some difference this month.

My ds will be 4 in october. How funny would it be if this was the month and they shared a birthday!

Himawbroon [can you tell I am at work and have nothing to do except sit on MN all morning emoticon!]
when is your AF due? Looks like a few of us are on or around Valentines day, here's hoping we are all lucky this month..

Hmm, not entirely sure without looking at my chart. I am due to ovulate in about a weeks time from now.

If the progesterone cream makes any difference then who knows when AF will be!!

Interested in the progesterone cream mawbroon - was that from your GP? I suspect my luteal phase is a bit short but haven't charted to prove it. I do kee track of CM but don't want to get too obsessive. These opks are my limit - once they finish that's it I think. speaking of which, I did get a faint pink line yesterday so it looks like I'll be ovulating soon. Was due to on Tuesday, and cycle is normally 29 days.

I finally managed to make a GP appointment today, but not for another 2 weeks (no GPs free when I am - grrr). So I can now go and share my paranoia about weird pains and TTC with someone. If I'm darned lucky, I could be in line for a BFP round that time too, but it is really looking very unlikely. I'm unusually down in the dumps and wondering if my hormones are still up the left after my mmc - I've never had ovulation-induced depression before! DH is still very much in the grips of a virus and is not remotely interested in BD. Was in tears last night I'm so about it.

Do you ever feel like grieving for a missed opportunity egg? Don't know if I'm odd in that respect. I've been TTC since June and had a mc 3 days after a BFP in July, a couple of chemical pregnancies since and then the mmc in December. I just feel that if my luck is out that much, we should be trying with every egg, just in case it's a goodun!

I'm off to contemplate whether chocolate will make me feel better or worse... (trying to be good and lose a bit of flab)

Wishing you all a better time, and luck than me!

iLoveRosyCheeks - am with you on the dates thing as I was so looking forward to having a late May /early June baby and imagining myself sitting in the garden with the babe

Sadly it wasn't to be, and although I'd prefer a Spring / Summer baby, time is not on my side and I've decided I'd just love one anytime it decides to arrice I'm CD5 or 6 today, so am gearing up for some serious TTC action

I too feel like I've wasted eggs couldn't get DP in the mood in January - he said it was too early after MC. He did relent, but I think too late, so my hopeful 2WW was in vain

Really really really hoping it is this month (no pressure then !) - my nephew is a Christmas Day baby and I'd rather not wish that on any son or daughter of mine - better to spread the presents and the attention

banjaxed - no, I got it online. Went to the doc a while back and was basically told to come back if I still wasn't pg 6 months after ds weans.

For anyone on here who hasn't read it, I would really recommend "Taking charge of your fertility" by Toni Weschler

Mornin' hope everyone is okay.. especially you banjaxed hpe you feel a bit better about things.... I am going to use OPK for first time today as don't think meant to OV til end of this week but feel like I might be now - find it all bit confusing but the lots of sex and fingers crossed method aint working so better start getting clinical about it.
mawbroon are you in edinburgh?

Good luck with the OPKs iloverosycheeks. I had got to the same stage as you and felt that clinical was the next step, but I didn't realise how unreliable and awkward to use they are! I got 2-3 days of pink lines over the weekend, but none were remotely dark. Apparently this means that a) I didn't get an LH surge so may not have ovulated or b) I drink too much fluid at the wrong times or c) I did get an LH surge but I just didn't test at the right time of day and missed it! Can't be doing with that really - I think I'll just use the ones I have left to find my 'pink' days and keep it that vague. It coincides with mega hormones, a bit more CM than usual and some libido too, so all the old signs still work .

Feeling better after a massive hormonal meltdown at the weekend, culminating in many tears and (eventually) a sympathetic BD from DH, but probably too late for me this month. Still not too sure about this ov business . Thanks for asking!