Am TTC, how do I stop this taking over my life and manage to concentrate on something else.

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Am TTC for DC2,

but am new to trying my DS was an unplanned pregnancy.

currently at home, should be working but just find it impossible to concentrate as I am thinking about dates, possibilities etc way too much.

How do I relax and stop obsessing, so that I can get on with work and my life if my period comes again?

or is this it, will I just obsess till it happens?

wish i could tell you how to stop obsessing but I'm the same!! Ttc #1. Had a mmc in september 08 and after waiting 3 months am now on my 2ww. The obsession made me test a week early in the hope, of course it was BFN..have stocked up on ovulation kits and pregnancy tests too, bought a themometer (sp?) and signed up to fertility friend etc

I'm trying for no.1 (first cycle) and am waiting to test at the moment and am finding it impossible not to obsess.

We're having our bathroom re-fitted at the moment which should be keeping me busy but even then I keep thinking about how to change the layout to make bathing a toddler easy; I'm not even pregnant yet FFS!

I think it's just one of those things really, if anyone does have the magic secret to not obsessing I would love to hear too

Me too - I want to hear it

I am TTC#3 and I too wish i knew how not to obsess but i think it comes with the teritory to a certain extent.

I analyse every niggle and twinge, and count down the days until I can test.

Every month I think i'll wait til after AF is due but every month I can't bare to wait and end up testing every morning from about day 25.

Cost me a fortune and as yet every one has been BFN

Can you find some way to restrict your obssessing? I know how you feel, as we lost our first to mmc last March after 10 months trying, so trying again was particularly fraught. However, if you can decide to have, say, 1 hour a day for charting, MNing, Googling, etc., and then get on with whatever else you have to do, that might be good. And then restrict yourself to the days when you will use the OPK sticks, pg tests etc., by writing them in your diary and sticking to it, so you don't end up allowing yourself to test early. Then it could maybe be more like a project than an obssession (easier said than done, I know, but it kind of worked for me ).

The only thing that works in my experience would be general anaethesia. Not practical!

I guess we all just have to try and obsess less rather than not at all.

Very hard, esp after 2 mcs and everyone i know (seriously) announcing pregnancies. One today (who lives 100 miles away) announced she is 20wks and due the same time as my first mc. My heart is breaking right now

Can't you just tell yourself that the odds in one cycle are low, not use contraception expect nothing and start thinking about the possibility of pg when your period doesn't arrive? It may possibly take longer but it lets life continue.

Brett, that would definately be the best approach but unfortunately its not always that easy

Ilove beingamummy, I know exactly what you mean. Everyone I know is pregnant too! There are even a few freinds that weren't even trying!