BFP but not sure if I am happy!!

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I took a HPT this morning as I just had a feeling and it came up BFP.

DP and I had decided a few months ago that we would stop using protection and see what happened but were not actively ttc, we have a 2 1/2 yo DS already.

I am currently on anti depressants and DP may be losing his job in the new year so it really isnt the best time for us to be having a baby!!

I would never consider an abortion but I just feel a bit over whelmed at this unexpectd news and im not sure how to break it to DP!!

Oh, confused, I'm going to congratulate you anyway because you obviously do want this really if you had deliberately stopped using protection.

It is really overwhelming but there is never a good time to have a baby. Good luck to you and your DP.

I have a nearly 2 year old DS and I would love another. 3 years is a nice age gap. It will all work out in the end.

Hi, of course you are overwhelmed. It's normal for a positive test to bring all kinds of emotions, even if the baby is planned.

Be honest about your feelings when you break it to your DP - if you weren't using protection this was bound to happen sooner or later, so you need to support each other.

I hope it starts to feel like happy news soon and you are ready for some congratulations

Thankyou Ladies x

I really do want another baby it just seems that circumstances are against us!!

DS was unplanned and I felt less scared with that BFP than this one (maybe because I know what to expect!!)

DP also wants another baby but I think he will be anxious because of the uncertainty with his job

no matter how wanted or planned a baby is i think we all feel that rush of panic and fear when we first find out. the creation of a new human being is a monumentally frightening prospect even when everything is going well!

for what it's worth we had the exact same thing with ds, dp was out of work and we were massively in debt. we weren't using protection but weren't trying... we sort of resumed as dd had taken 2 years we didn't really have much to worry about and we did want 2 close in age. when i got pregnant with ds when dd was only 9 months old it was petrifying though. dd still didn't sleep at all, she was still bf and i was working part time and that was our only income at that time. dps initial reaction was 'shit' and mine wasn't much better tbh, i'd suspected for a while (was 10 weeks when i did a test!) but it was still shocking to see that little line.

ds is 2.5 now and everything has been brilliant. he was an easier baby than dd, i found parenting easier second time round and the gap between him and dd is fantastic.

dp turned to me the other weeks and said 'yeah, it was a good decision to have them so close together, i'm glad we did it' i guess he's forgotton about 'shit' then

it will be fine, honestly. things will work out and it's a long time before the baby is born, even longer before it'll cost much money if you bf and wean at 6 months so ye have plenty of time to sort out the financial side of things.

congratulations and good luck