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Going to go to GP, will they fob me off?

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deanychip · 15/12/2008 16:14

how long befor they refer you to gynae?

whats the cut off age for investigations?

What sort of info will they need?

(for trying to concieve and failing that is??)

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MrsHappy · 15/12/2008 16:24

6 months if you are over 35, although I would try sooner if I was worried about something specific.

I don't know what the cut-off for invetigations is, but at 38 I can't imagine you are too old.

Re the info, they should ask about your past history, whether you have regular periods, children, past pregnancies etc.

If they do try to fob you off, my approach would be to ask directly "are you refusing to refer me?". If they are, ask on what basis they are doing so and under which guidelines. At least then you can read the relevant information before going back!

mummydoc · 15/12/2008 16:26

usually trying for 2 years if below age 35, 1 year for above would result in investigations and referral in my neck of hte woods, they will ask about your cycle , if you have ever achieved a pregnancy, if your partner has had a pregnancy with some one else, general health and lifestyle questions and probably a little bit about what you a sa couple think is regular sex ( i have had patients who claimed to be ttc for 2 years and it turned out they only had sex once every 6 montsh as he worked abroad ....)

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deanychip · 15/12/2008 16:33

LOL! thats hillarious! once every 6 months! [grin}

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mummydoc · 15/12/2008 16:57

i kid you not - and the woman who wanted to concive but never actually had penerative sex at all - actually i think the agenda there was her anxiety over sex not the failure to ocncieve thing ...

MrsHappy · 15/12/2008 16:59

You laugh but I read an article a couple of years ago in which a fertility specialist was saying that some people come to her wanting (private) IVF because they don't have time for sex and only manage it once a month. Can you imagine?

Sometimes I do think that the "qualification periods" for referral should be less if you can demonstrate a working knowledge of your menstrual cycle and when you should be having sex. A year is probably not long to ttc if you don't know what you are doing but in my case (and in the case of lots of people whose stories I have seen on here) it is indicative of a problem...

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deanychip · 16/12/2008 14:51

oh God dont say that, im dreading them telling me that i have got something wrong with me
may have to face that i will never be able to have a baby.

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cece · 16/12/2008 14:54

I got referred after 3-4 months but I was 41. Got an appointment within 4 weeks too! Boy was I shocked.

MrsHappy · 16/12/2008 15:01

Oh god sorry, I did not want to upset you. I just meant that this time, when we had been ttc for 6 months, I knew something was wrong and put off seeing the Dr. I did get pg but it was not viable, and that happened to me 3 times so that now we are 18 months in and finally having investigations which are suggesting a (fixable) physical problem that I wish I had known about (and dealt with) earlier.

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deanychip · 16/12/2008 15:55

Dont worry, i think that i do have something wrong with me tbh.

ahh well, lets see what GP says.
x

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duchesse · 16/12/2008 16:11

I have been entirely disinclined to go my GP about failing to conceive since the last attempt after 2 years trying resulted in him attempting to get me on ADs and telling me there was really nothing they could do about the failing to conceive. Apparently some people do have GPs who are not utter pillocks though.

Broodzilla · 16/12/2008 16:26

Deany Have you done one of those fertility tests that you can do at home? (They do his and hers versions)

We got a kit, did the test, results indicated a problem, went off to see the GP... who basically said that as the kit doesn't give you actual figures (they've got cut-off points for what they deem is normal, and if you're below that then they advise you to seek help) we can't be sure that it's a serious problem and therefore we should keep trying for 12 months.

Not sure if that's a normal response, and come to think of it, not even one that would make you more likely to take the test, but at least you could go armed with something?

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deanychip · 18/12/2008 00:57

no broody, never done anything like that...are they not very expensive those tests?

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Broodzilla · 18/12/2008 13:42

Deany you can get a his and hers one from Boots for about £50 (Fertell) that looks very high-tech. So yes, not cheap...
but Homehealth seem to have a similar test (his and hers) for about £20, although it requires a bit more fiddling around, but it also comes with TWO tests so that you get a more reliable figure.

Again - I don't know if these are realiable (they certainly claim to be) and it doesn't seen like GPs take them seriously, but yours might be more symphatetic!

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