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Conception

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Should I go for number 2?!!

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hashim · 14/12/2008 21:05

I have a 15 month old daughter...... some days I'm very broody, others I'm not at all. My DP is desperate for another. I just can't decide. What do you think?

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BeckyBendyLegs · 14/12/2008 21:12

Go with your gut feeling. I have two and they are 2 1/4 years apart so my DS1 was about the same age as your daughter when I got pregnant. Now they are 5 and 2 1/2 and the best of buddies. I'm trying for number three right now!

JumpingJellyfish · 14/12/2008 21:19

Ditto to Becky! My two are also 2.3yrs apart, and although only now 3.5yrs and 17 months they get on really well (mostly!) and are inseparable. Yes it was crazy in the very early months with juggling the 2 but you do manage, and before long you can't remember a time of only having 1! In fact we are also TTC#3 now!

Definitely trust your instincts. No age gap is perfect and it's hard to engineer anyway Good luck x

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hashim · 14/12/2008 21:26

Thank you.
The reasons for not having another one are - having more time off work, the size of our house - tiny, but it is up for sale - not that it will sell quickly, the cost of 2 sets of nursery fees and the bloody awful sleepless nights again. But I am broody and I know we'll be okay even if it is really hard at first. We have loads of supportive family nearby.
Oh and another reason for not having another just yet is that my brother and his wife arer due in may, after a whopping 8 years of TTC. I don't want to take the shine off them. But is that silly?!

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claraquistmas · 14/12/2008 21:34

Yes to the last one - your no 2 will never take the shine off a couple who have been ttc for 8 years with (presumably) their first. No 2's seem to barely register with most people! Besides which if they are due in May that gives them plenty of time for all the adultation they no doubt deserve.

My two are also 2.3 months apart. I won't lie, it has been a lot tougher than I expected. But I'm glad I did it and now that dd2 has turned one, things are starting to get a little easier. You can always find excuses not to do something but my advice would be if it's what you want - Go for it, but be prepared for the rough with the smooth.

nowwearefour · 14/12/2008 21:40

just go for it. who knows how long it will take and if they are this close it will be really worth it in the long run (though perhaps hard work in the short run!).mine are 22 months apart and now the youngest is 18 months it isstarting to pay dividends. though it was the hardest year ofmy life i still am glad i did it...

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hashim · 14/12/2008 21:50

Oh bugger. Go on then... I'll have a think about it for another week and if I still feel the same, DP is in for a fab Christmas...

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BeckyBendyLegs · 15/12/2008 11:44

Yeah! I think you should go for it. I can now look back fondly on those early months of DS2's life: for example when DS1 was 2.5 and DS2 just 5 months the house was flooded. That was fun....NOT! DS2 had a tummy bug at the same time too. We've been TTCing for number 3 for a year now. I am sooooo broody.

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