Anyone ttc #2 with large age gap between that and dc1?

[worrybum]

Don't even know if this is the right place to post. The reason I ask is because dd1 is 9 and a half now and has wanted a brother or sister for as long as I can remember. I desperately want another dc, don't feel that my family is complete. Have had 4 successive miscarriages in the last 5 years. Diagnosed with PCOS this year. It just seems that the age gap is now becoming something that I'm concerned about on top of everything else if that makes sense at all. If I do have another I wonder what their relationship will be like. Feel like I have deprived dd in some way???Maybe I'm just worrying because things haven't worked out the way I had always hoped they would and I need to change my perspective????

my sister is 13 yrs older than me and my brother 15 yrs older. It's always been lovely having 'grown up' siblings, and the minute i hit late teens i was taken on as one of them. I honestly don't think it is necessarily a barrier.
about the mc's, been there too. Yes every time it happens you have to adjust your hopes and your expectations [no that's not the right word?] - I think i mean perceptions, more accurately. Anyway, just trying to say try not to worry. you will have a lovely helper in your big dd and she will understand and appreciate any addition to the family.
Wishing you lots of luck

Thanks gigglewitch, I think it's those sorts of positives that i need to hear. Can't believe I'm up past midnight fretting about this but it's just been niggling away at me tonight. Sorry about your losses too, are you ttc at the moment?

gawd no. Have got three dc and feel very lucky
(and permanently knackered) - it looked like we weren't going to have any.
It's always the dark that sets all these niggles off isn't it? You sound perfectly sane to me. Are you at a worry-stage with your ttc? hope they've offered you whatever treatment's going these days? For me [9yrs and 6yrs ago] they shut all my hormones down, convinced my body i was menopausal or something, to give my knackered bits a good rest, then revved it all up again and i had scans - saw the egg that made ds1 Hardly spontaneous but well worth it.