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just found out i am pregnant but worried about 2nd mc...

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lalatele · 27/10/2008 19:59

Hi, just found out i'm pregnant, pregnancy was unplanned and probably not happening at the best time. I have been really stressed at work and had flare ups of eczema which i treated with high doses of steroids. Looking back i have been doing very bad things such as running everyday to catch my trains and be on time at appointments, miss my lunches, rarely sit down and have drinks, carrying heavy things such as luggages and shopping and eat taramasalata (is it bad during pregnancy?)...having had a miscarriage last year i am worried i did not do myself any favour...
Please reassure!!!
Thanks

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christiana · 27/10/2008 20:20

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lalatele · 27/10/2008 21:16

thanks christiana!! Congratulations...! I have a dd 2...so am happy about it of course and should take off these bad thoughts off my mind but it is hard when u have had a mc as u probably know!
Keep me updated... when are you due then?

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christiana · 27/10/2008 21:45

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lalatele · 27/10/2008 22:05

last period was on the 19th of september....so should be due end of june too!! I too feel some cramps and am paranoid!! Anybody else?
anyway christiana, we will hopefully be ok!
Take care

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MsG · 28/10/2008 23:29

Hi you two, congratulations! I am also pregnant and feeling a bit anxious because I had a miscarriage last year. I'm 9 weeks now, nearly 10, and having my first scan in a week and a half. Nervous because I had the miscarriage at about 10 and a half weeks last year.

I do panic a bit if I get the slightest twitch! It's hard not to worry after going through that horrible experience.

We just have to try to stay positive, and not let the worrying overwhelm us! If I have a bad day, I try to think "this is just a bad day, I'll feel better tomorrow" and that helps a bit.

twentynine · 28/10/2008 23:38

lalatele - I've had two babies and two miscarriages, so I understand the paranoia, but I do know something and it's this:

Some pregnancies succeed and some don't regardless of what you do.

With my first miscarriage I was so careful, stopped taking any risks, behaved myself, obsessed constantly, got to six weeks and miscarried

With my first child, I did everything wrong, fell off ladders before I knew I was pregnant, ate the wrong things, built walls blah blah blah. She came out fine

Next miscarriage - well didn't even realise I was pregnant so definitely wasn't doing anything helpful - and was toting a heavy toddler round most of the time.

Second child - did everything wrong, still toting toddler round, eating blue cheese, getting food poisoning, travelling etc. - yep, he's fine too.

You see, it's got very little to do with what you do, it's simply whether or not the baby is strong. By all means take your vitamins and look after your own health but please don't feel responsible because you aren't. Sometimes babies are not strong enough to survive and miscarry - and it's really sad but it wasn't because you did something wrong. Most times, whatever you do has no effect on the outcome.

Oh and congratulations

lalatele · 29/10/2008 23:06

thanks all for your helpful advice and for sharing experience! Let's keep in touch! MsG, hope you will be alright for your scan, let us know! (NB: thought you could ask for early scan at 7 weeks if u have had mc?)

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christiana · 30/10/2008 11:45

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lalatele · 31/10/2008 20:48

good christiana!Keep us updated! Will see my gp on monday and ask to be referred for scan. according to blood test, very weak positive result, so am worried that hcg levels too low,...but not explained anything by gp...they are really useless these gps!

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