Help, I'm really worried about Hyperemisis returning in a second pregnancy.

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, I have a 3.5 year old daughter and I had severe hyperemesis throughout my pregnancy with her.
I was being sick every 20 mins day and night for 5 months. It was the worst experience of my life. I even concidered an abortion at one stage, which was madness as we had to go through fertility treatment to have her and we were absoluitly extatic to find out that I was pregnant.
We have just had our hospital appointment to see about having another baby, but I just feel terrified that I'll get hyperemesis again.
Last time, I couldn't cope with looking after myself let alone a 3 year old daughter. I also got depression throughout the last stages of pregnancy which was just awfull.
I don't know wether I can go through all this again. There is a high chance of hyperemesis reoccuring.
I'm going to be taking the clomid again soon, but I'm starting to get cold feet. I'm just not sure what to do. I chickened out once before, 6 months ago. I cancelled my hospital appointment. I can't do that again. I just don't know what to do.

Anyone ?

My friend had it in both her pregnancies yes, but as I remember there was a possibility she wouldn't get it twice iyswim. Hopefully someone with better answers will come along soon.

Could you have help with your DD from family and friends? Or afford nursery a few mornings a week?

hello mummyloveslucy,
i know how you are feeling, i had severe hyperemesis with my dd2, and like you i considered terminating the pregnancy. as it was the worst sickness i have ever dealt with.

4 yrs later when i was pregnant with ds1, i was terrified this would return, i remember crying uncontrolably(sp) when i found out,terrified it would happen again thankfully however it was a easy pregnancy compared to my daughters.

i suppose there are no guarantees, but i dont think you should not go through with your treatment as it sounds to me like you really want another child.

remember also, that you will be well aware this time of the signs, and will be able to get tablets etc to help you through if it does return.

good luck and hope this helps xx

Hi mummyloveslucy, I have a dd who is 29 months old. I am now 35 weeks pregnant on my second. I had hyperemesis on my first pregnacy and was hospitalised with dehydration a couple of times. I was really nervous going into this pregnancy and was distraught when I started vomiting at 6 weeks. It was really intense this time but I saw a different doctor who gave me shots of cyclazine which helped a bit. I had to go stay with my mother as I couldn't manage dd on my own and then - like a miracle - at 13 weeks the vomiting stopped. There is no way of knowing what will happen in your case but in a few weeks dd will have a new brother or sister and I think that will make those bad weeks worth it. Also I think second time round you will be know if it is getting bad and maybe earlier intervention will help.

I had HG in my first pregnancy and was hospitalised on several occasions, like you I was really worried about how I would cope with a second pregnancy when I had a 2 year old to look after. I read all the info on the HG support sites and felt certain it would return in my second pregnancy.

I was one of the lucky ones, I had quite bad morning sickness with DS2 but no where near as bad as with DS1. I found that I coped better with the sickness because I just had to, I did need to take anti emetics a couple of times but in general I was much better.

Obviously you just won't know what the sickness will be like until you are pregnant again but there is a chance you won't be as bad. Good luck with whatever you decide x

I don't know what to say to help - but didn't want to leave you without a reply.

I had severe hyperemesis first time around, but was definite I wanted another child, and as we conceived easily I did not have this debate with myself. We simply decided to try again without pressure, and got pregnant again. But I can't give you any rays of hope - my second pregnancy was MUCH worse than the first. I was in and out of hospital, ended up with severe depression which was ignored by my midwife, and generally coped really badly with it all.

If you are doubting whether you can go through a second pregnancy then I would really seriously sit down and think about whether you should try for another child. How much of a gap will it leave in your life to just have the one? I always wanted a big family - had planned on 4 and then see, but I will not be having another now, and I do feel sad about that, but not sad enough to go through another pregnancy.

If you do want another child then I would suggest you look into everything you can do to get you through the pregnancy this time around - can you afford childcare for the duration? Will your Dr prescribe anti emetics or can you sign on with a different Dr?

Good luck whatever decision you make!

Thanks everyone, it wouldn't leave a gap in my life and I couldn't be happier with my daughter. I do feel that she would benefit from having a sibling, and she would make a fantastic big sister.
She dosn't have any friend her own age neer by. She does go to nursery 5 sessions a week and loves meeting her little friends.

Also, with the fertility drugs their would be a chance of twins. Actually, I think I'd quite like that.

Sorry, I'm very late to this message, but really felt I needed to write. Had HG with both of my girls. With the first, I stopped working and spent 4 months on the sofa - the usual story, nothing stayed down including water. It was grisly, especially since I was never officially diagnosed - and if people don't know someone who's had HG, they are just so awful.

I keep reading it's hereditary, but neither my mother nor grandmother suffered. Even my mother would say, you're not ill you're pregnant (And yes, i did want to punch her, if I'd had the strength).

When I fell pregnant with dd2, we moved in with my in-laws as soon as the sickness started. We'd been in Oxford before, and none of the GPs I saw did anything. Well, in rural herefordshire, I was really lucky and happened upon this super chap who did acupuncture, in my wrists. I can't recommend it enough. Yes, I felt just as awful, but the sickness went from every few minutes to maybe 2 x a day. This meant I could get by and vaguely look after dd1, who thankfully doesn't seem to scared by the experience.

I took the anti-emetics for 1 day, and the acupuncture gave me the same effect as those, if that helps.

I'm writing this because I really hope it helps someone else. Also, all the research shows that HG pregnancies never miscarry, and my dds are beautiful and very healthy!

I would love a third.....