Nearly 39 and feeling broody for number 3 ..

[jonquil]

I have two beautiful loving wonderful children aged 5 and 2 and a half. I thought I was done after baby no 2 and have given away all my pregnancy clothes / baby kit and baby clothes .. there is nothing baby left in this house. I have just recently started to feel broody again and think I would really like to have another. My husband is pretty set against. I appreciate that this decision is ours and ours alone, but would love to hear some views on this! I'm nearly 40 and wonder whether having a baby now would just be asking for trouble!

Oh, I could have written that post - except in my case it would be 'Nearly 40 and feeling broody for number 3'.

My two are nearly 5 and 3 respectively. I've sold/given away all the baby things - most recently the cot just last week.

My dh thinks we'd have to move house/change car/make unsustainable financial commitments to have another, but I don't think we would.

I do think that, were I to become pregnant, a whole new set of worries - health in particular - would assail me and then perhaps I would regret it. And I also wonder if it's just that I miss having a baby, rather than wanting another child.

But...I just want one.

My husband is most concerned about the financial aspects of it all too. He is self employed and so income fluctuates wildly. I work part time too and there is no (financial) prospect of me giving up, so there is the added worry of why would I have another child then go out to work. I also worry that with my age (and the fact that there is mild autism in my family) that if I had a boy, we may be opening ourselves up to quite a different life.

But, it would just be so wonderful to have another baby..

Hi i always wanted 3 children vut after number 2 wasn't so sure (not because they are bad) Only in lst few months that i got broody and we decided to go for it. I didn't want to look back in a few years are regret it at a point where i couldn't have any more. I am nearly 35 so still have time but well aware that fertility drops up 35. I say go for it or at least try and see what happens. You only get 1 life and if thats what you want do it. I think if you have 2, one more wont make that much difference money wise. Presents you just cut the others a tiny bit (they get too much anyway!!!) and will make up the extra for the 3rd. Only problem i see is everything is geared up for families of 4 not 5. 4 pork chops in a packet, 8 sausages, 2 double beds in a room at disneyland!!! but hey ho

I did it, At 39years old decided to try for another before I was 40, Already had 3yo dd and 4 year old ds. Took me longer than expected to get pg, and then had miscarriage (my first). But got pg two weeks later and now my 6month old ds2 is playing happily beside me.

On positive side, he is the most gorgeous happy easy going boy and everyone is besotted with him. So much so that it has made me want to ttc no4!!!!! Both brother and sister love him and it is wonderful to see them with him.

On the negative side, it is more difficult dealing with three than two children, activities like going swimming with them is not so easy trying to watch three is much less safe than watching two. Getting out in the mornings is much harder, but I am hoping this will get easier later on.

Fortunately I had not got rid of all my pg or baby things, so finacially it is not so bad. Am using resuable nappies etc again too. But I am sure that the finacial issues will be worse when they are teenagers.

It is harder to get family tickets for things with 3 rather than 2 children.

But I went ahead and don't regret it. So I hope that you have success at either getting rid of the broodiness or getting pg!

We have been trying for no.3 for a year now, have 2 girls 6 and almost 3. Have had 2 m/c in the past 12mths but am still keen to try again for another one. Very happy if it's another girl, i.e. we're not trying for a boy as most people will assume, I've just always wanted 3 children, we don't quite feel finished yet. dh doesn't mind either way. I've just turned 38 so my age is stressing me a little, nice to find threads like this with like-minded people

Have heard from some that the jump from 2 to 3 isn't as dramatic as from 1 - 2?

I've also heard that ilmd, I'm guessing because you already have a noisy house and an overworked washing machine, my hope is that no.3 will fit in nicely amongst the chaos

doesn't matter if you already have 2, that want for the 3rd seems just as bad as the want for your 1st or 2nd doesn't it? I know i am lucky with 2 DS and we conceived them both 1st time, but this time it is taking longer. This is 4th month which i know is not long and i appreciate many people on here have been trying for years, but the longing is still there.