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Late but still -ve thread...come on BFPs!

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Ilovebeingamummy · 22/09/2008 12:37

Here we go wishing - this should be better. Some moral support through what seems to be the 3+ww for us!!

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orangehead · 26/09/2008 09:18

Thanks lovebeingamummy, Im on cd38, normally 27 days. Still got a negative this morning, I know I should wait for the bloods. But surely it would show up now, I really dont think I am but really confused to where my normally regular period has gone.
Hope you have a good time away wishing.
Thankyou both for your support

Wishing · 26/09/2008 13:29

I think im out after all! Startd bleedin in nite! While we are away! Great isnt it! Cried my eyes out last nite, realy bad cramps at minute, but not as heavy as normal! Im guttd and confusd! I hate this dnt no what 2 do at all! X x x

orangehead · 26/09/2008 14:13

I'm sorry wishing. I bled in both pregnancies with my two boys and everything was fine. I hope you ok.
I am out, bloods come back negative. But no period and no signs. I then had to ring the doc back to ask what I do now as the stupid woman just said negative and put the phone down. Apparently I have to wait another week, retest and come back if still negative.

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Ilovebeingamummy · 26/09/2008 17:22

Just to let you know my tfp has ended in lots of bleeding today (well i think its lots - don;t know when to start accepting its all over). Will check back when i have got myself together a bit x

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orangehead · 26/09/2008 21:09

I'm so sorry lovebeingamummy. Thinking of you and wishing.

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Ilovebeingamummy · 28/09/2008 19:42

I am starting to get my head together now and accept that we just have to move on to next month.

With hindsight I recognise that I knew something wasn;t right when i was a week overdue before getting a very faint positive.

Hope everyone else is doing ok x

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Wishing · 29/09/2008 14:57

Hello Love being a mummy and orange head - and anyone else, im back from my weekend away and sort of back to earth - may sound daft but it has sort of been easier to cope with not being at home and just been away fromit all with DH - we were both so upset thursday night, we had just got there and started to relax and even talking about a possibe baby when bleeding started - why does our body play such cruel tricks?? or is it us?? do we do it to ourselves - it was so hard to deal with at first but like you i love being a mummy im trying to concentrate on next month - seems so so so far away though, and if we couldnt do it this month what happens next month?? plus what is going on inside!! aarrgh these seems so unfair. Friday at breakfast as well the day after af decided to make an appearence they sat me next to a pregnant lady - i broke down eating my porrigde it was so embarassing!! DH was so good about it considering i looked like a mental person but after that episode ive been quite strong!!

im so sorry for you love being a mummy i know how you feel -its heartbreaking isnt it!! lets try move on to next month, we seem to be in synce with each other!!

hope everyone is ok

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Ilovebeingamummy · 29/09/2008 19:21

Hi Wishing. I am feeling a lot better today, after seeing Gp and getting negative test. Strangely that helps as hcg has dropped so quickly they suspect chemical pregnancy.

So as you say, we seem to be in sync, as is yellowflowers! ...so its onto next month and the hope that this horrible eperience has at leats made me super fertile or something!

Glad being away helped a bit! LOL at the porridge - we saw a friend who is 6mth pregnant with number 2 on Sat - I couldn;t even say hello - just ran off for a blub I guess its all pretty normal...goodness knows what is going on inside as you say! x

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yellowflowers · 29/09/2008 19:25

Hi wishing and Ilovebeingamummy - so nice to have people to be in sync with, except I dunno how long this cycle will be as usually am 30 days but was 34 this cycle. Going to start going for it with the BD from this weekend, even though it'll only be cd 9 - just in case.
x

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Ilovebeingamummy · 29/09/2008 19:29

I say BD all month as much as you can

I have absolutely no idea how to work out when to bd this month - I guess I will just have to wait til bleeding stops and give it a couple of weeks. And watch for CM. Don;t really want to wait another cycle though.

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orangehead · 29/09/2008 19:31

Think Im in sync too, af finally arrived friday night. Hope you all ok.

Wishing · 29/09/2008 21:46

seems like we all pulling through pretty well girlies!! Are days of BFP will come!! Im up for baby dancing all the way i love being a mummy!!

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Ilovebeingamummy · 30/09/2008 16:37

Well bleeding has stopped today which i find a bit odd - GP and everyone else with any experience of tbis seems to think i should bleed for 7-10 days.

Not that I'm complaining- but it does have the horrible effect of giving me some ridiculous hope that i am still pregnant - despite negative (doctor's) test and the fact that i only had very faint bfp to start with. Am on the verge of begging for scan just to draw a line under it!

All a bit mad! Anyway at least with bleeding over i can start to plan the bding that will hopefully bring a proper sticky bean Here's hoping for us all!

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yellowflowers · 30/09/2008 17:40

would doing another test at home put your mind at rest?

DawnAS · 30/09/2008 17:46

Ilovebeingamummy,

Sorry to just jump on and add my post, but I just wanted to say that I had an MC at 5 weeks back in August and my bleeding only lasted 3 days at the most.

Sorry if that's not want you wanted to hear but sometimes it's better to just move on with the next one...

Also, we did start BDing as soon as the bleeding had stopped, so that's a good reason for bleeding to stop quick! It didn't work that month but I'm hopeful this month as DPO12, no brown CM that I normally get 3 or 4 days before AF and lots of weeing and tingly nipples... Sorry about TMI!!

Good luck on here ladies!!

xxx

Wishing · 30/09/2008 19:36

all the info we can get helps DawnAS!!

hey lovebeingamummy, i know how you feel, af for me wasnt normal, it actually stopped for a whole afternoon and evening when we were away and it has all stopped after 3 days - ive told myself today that i could still be pregnant but im just literally wishing!! im sure of it, i keep looking for reasons that it might have meant it was just bleeding and not af - even squezzed my boobs are to see if they were tender!! the crazy things we do!

i arent testing though i cant pout myself through it, i know deep deep down im just hanging on hoplessly - i just need to concentrate on next month!! on top of all this work has been horrible for me lately so im super depressed which got me worrying that i wont be able ttc with extra stress - it seems like a vicious circle!!

hope everyone else ok!! happy bd girlies

xxxxxx

Wishing · 30/09/2008 19:37

all the info we can get helps DawnAS!!

hey lovebeingamummy, i know how you feel, af for me wasnt normal, it actually stopped for a whole afternoon and evening when we were away and it has all stopped after 3 days - ive told myself today that i could still be pregnant but im just literally wishing!! im sure of it, i keep looking for reasons that it might have meant it was just bleeding and not af - even squezzed my boobs are to see if they were tender!! the crazy things we do!

i arent testing though i cant pout myself through it, i know deep deep down im just hanging on hoplessly - i just need to concentrate on next month!! on top of all this work has been horrible for me lately so im super depressed which got me worrying that i wont be able ttc with extra stress - it seems like a vicious circle!!

hope everyone else ok!! happy bd girlies

xxxxxx

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Ilovebeingamummy · 30/09/2008 21:30

HI DawnAS - thank you - that is really helpful - to feel that it is not abnormal to have a short bleed. I will have to get my head around restarting the bd-ing next!

Sorry to hear about your MC and here's hoping those tingly nipples are a bfp in-waiting

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Ilovebeingamummy · 30/09/2008 21:33

Wishing - join me on next month - my work has been horrendous too so we are definitely in some sort of sync here! Lets aim for some october bfps...

I am calculating from day 1 of bleeding as CD1( no idea if that is right but its worth a shot) so now on CD5 and planning bd from next monday onwards

Oh how romantic this is...

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Wishing · 30/09/2008 22:16

we are definately in sync love being a mummy - im doing the same counting thursday as first day of bleeding - despite it being late on and im on cd6 - we are uping the anti next week on the bd front - though arent talking to dh too much about best times to bd as he does start to feel a bit like a robot and has ended up in an argument before today! so trying to act really cool and just seem spontaneous with dh and will leave any stresses for mn - keep in touch

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Ilovebeingamummy · 02/10/2008 12:50

Sounds like us!! Although I'm sure DH knows - we are both just pretending to be spontaneous!

I have a scan tomorrow at 9am - sure they will find nothing but at least i can draw a line under it then. Will def keep in touch here - i need someone to remind me what CD it is

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Wishing · 02/10/2008 22:40

Fingers crossed for your scan love being a mummy! i did a test i gave in but it was def a bfn!!

trying again this month i think but when working out some dates realised that i would be due right before we go on holiday and if im late it woould effect that and then there is the thing of can i take a new born on holilday so soon?? The holiday is quite important we go everyyear with stepdaughter and we hardly see her she livfes away so if we dont go it will be a huge change for her and i dont want her to feel left out if we are lucky with ttc - she has got upset before about us starting a family cos she thought we would forget her!! i just want to plese everyone and dh seems well up for it this month after been so excited last week when we thought it was a bfp! xxxxxxx

sorry for waffling xxxxxxxx

let me know how scan goes

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Ilovebeingamummy · 03/10/2008 21:04

HI all

Well we didn't go for scan. After talking to friends who have had to visit epu in similar circumstances we decided given the definite BFN it was all pointless and probably very upsetting. Not to mention lack of childcare for the other two today - not the best place for them to go.

Anyway feeling a lot better about things now and hoping that the rumour of increased fertility post m/c is true. Although working out when/if I ovulate is going to be impossible to will have to bd constantly (that would have sounded a better prospect 10yrs ago!) LOL

Wishing re: your holiday - just make sure you have insurance! You can't take a baby under a certain number of weeks on a plane. If you manage it this month and you are due then could you have her come to you for a holiday instead - involve her that way maybe? Its never easy is it??

Problem is you can't go on plane after 34-36 weeks either so you would have to stop ttc for quite a while to avoid being heavily pregnant or have a newborn - if I was you I'd worry about it when it happens - so long as you involve your step-daughter along the way (scan pics/letters etc) I'm sure she'll be as excited as you would be eventually

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littlemissmischief · 04/10/2008 10:14

Hi can I join? Cycles are a bit hit and miss but the majority have been 41/42 days. Im on CD42 today (seems to have taken about 4 years to get here!) and my boobs are huge ad sore and veiny (sorry for the tmi) which was my 1st symptom with my ds so am convincing myself im pg but did a test this morning and a BFN!

Need someone to give me a virtual slap and a good dose of reality

Wishing · 04/10/2008 13:06

hello all

thanks love being a mummy - we dont go on a plane anyway we driv so that would all be ok - i know in theory it she should just love being here with us but believe you me it wouldnt be thast easy - i have spent so long building up a good relationship but its no where near plane sailig and she has to facrot a lot in our future plans which i have no problem with - oh i dont know im a just worrying for no reason! anyway....

glad you seem a bit better love being a mummy - its great you are so positve - and there could be worse things to do than extra bd!!

i posted to you on another thread little miss nd i dont wnt to build you up too much - im a sucker for doing it to myself!! but no af is a good sign! if your only on day 42 today then i would think your testing too early - dont know if you read prev posts on this thread so believe you me i know its hard work but try no to think about testing again for as long as you can leave it - i truley believe that i made stuff worse for myself last month by getting obsessed. also if you had same symptoms now as before another good sign - sending bags of baby dust your way and rally wishing for you!!

keep in touch and keep positive!

xxxxx