Sperm Donors

[milicent]

Hello

Has anyone had to use a sperm donor, have just found out that my DH has a zero sperm count and this might be our only option.

Just wanted some advice on how you coped and what happens next.

Thx x

so sorry to hear about your hubby.my friend did, was great for her as her hubby was infertile from khemo, she actually found it harder to chose from a list like at an impersonal sperm bank and a friend, or family member on her hubbys side, and it also made it easier to tell the child when he was older instead of saying she went to sperm bank, she was able to say Uncle ???? helped me and daddy have you, which puts later doubts and wanderings to rest as he knows who his biological dad is and is close to him, but knows who his Father is.

Hi there,
No experience of sperm donation, but I have been an egg donor. You'll find lots of support and advice over on fertilityfriends. There is a specific thread re egg and sperm donations.
Good luck.
madcows

Hi we have a beautifull dd who is 3 born through sperm donatation.Husband is completely infrtile due to extensive surgery as a child.Sperm donation was our only way to have a baby.
It was fairly straight forward once we decided to go ahead,they matched what my hubby looks like height,eye colour etc to the donor,people say she looks more like hubby than me so great match.We are always open and honest with her and others about how she was concieved,even though she is only 3 we have started now she has alovely book explainning things.DC network is a good and positive place to get info and support from.Hope all goes well for you,contact me if you want to. xx

I have had successful DI,due to DH having a zero sperm count. It has worked out very well for us, and we have had no regrets or doubts about it. I think that that's partly because we had fertility counselling first, to get all of the potential issues out in the open before we even started (things like mourning the biological child that you can't have together, whether/how to tell the child etc.). I don't want to sugar-coat it though, the diagnosis and the decision-making were really really hard.

The book that we really liked was Helping the Stork. It's written by an american couple, so some of the practical stuff isn't relevant to the UK, but the emotional stuff was spot on.

can anyone direct me to where i could start the sperm donation ball rolling please?