Conceiving without orgasm

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Been ttc for 4 years now no luck, ivf failed too. There are some concerns around egg and sperm quality but we have no choice but to trust that it can still happen naturally.

However we only do it around the week we "think" i am ovulating, my cycles are quite regular (confirmed through lh strips and bbt rise historically), perhaps a few in the year that are not. And even the few times we try, we struggle, especially me I can't orgasm and have read this happens to push the sperm into the cervix.

When you conceived, did you orgasm, if so, was it before or after partner ejaculated?

it wasn’t a factor in mg pregnancies, guarnateed

Go away on holiday chuck away all conceiving bits and just have a nice time. You would be amazed how many times people have struggled to conceive then went on holiday and came back with a nice surprise!

We have a gynaecologist friend. He said his number one piece of advice is have sex every other day. No testing kits, temperature taking, just that.

Some women orgasm during rape.

First pregnancy yes, second and third no

Came here to say this. In fact I suspect that's where the idea came from - it served men well to propagate the idea that a woman who became pregnant must have enjoyed it.

I understand the grasping for a reason that you've not fallen pregnant - I did the same when it took me ages to conceive. But it's got nothing to do with the female orgasm.

This thread is so depressing 😂

I don't know where you heard your info, but it is 100% not true.

It is actually a massive element of rape myths, that
1 women can't get pregnant from rape
2 if they do, it's because they weren't actually raped and must have had an orgasm

Woman do not orgasm during rape

Woman do not orgasm during rape

No orgasms at all at that time in my life.

I once saw something that said if women had to orgasm in order to conceive there would be way less people on the planet. There is no correlation.

Sperm is designed to swim, the legs in air is another myth

Thank you.

Omg, that’s such a bizarre thing to contribute 😳😳😳🤨🤨

@Cheese55 @GimmieABreakOr3

Its a horrible truth that woman can and sometimes do physically orgasm during rape and it's a HUGE source of shame for those individuals. I added it to the conversation because someone said earlier in the thread that women don't and it's the kind of misconception that should be fact-checked.

From Unicef:
"Sexual arousal is an automatic and very common response to stimulation of genitals and other sensitive body parts. When stimulated, it is not possible for someone to control whether or not they become aroused. Being aroused during an attack does not mean anything about someone’s sexuality. For example, during rape, a male survivor may have an erection or a female survivor might have a spontaneous orgasm; these are normal responses and do not mean that they enjoyed it and, it does not make someone gay. It is important to remember that experiencing an erection or orgasm does not mean you “wanted” the violence"

www.unicef.org/eca/media/10251/file/QA%20Sexual%20Violence%20EN.pdf

I find that hard to believe, a man can have a auto erection and ejaculation but i think a female orgasm is mind as well as body. Are u sure the writer isn't a man?

Just because you find it hard to believe doesn’t make it not true, it is purely a physical thing for some women, not a “mind and body” thing, hence the UN explanation about the shame because people’s responses is the implication that if it happens, it must be liked, because “mind and body”.
i am a woman, I know this is true for horrific reasons and like the un report it is a huge source of shame and can’t really be discussed (to help get through the trauma) as there is always that air of well that’s not true that’s a man’s myth, it’s a mind and body thing etc etc therefore you must have enjoyed it if it happened to you.

i won’t derail the ops thread any further but wanted to correct like @JustTalkToThem and I appreciate you correcting it @JustTalkToThem

I do understand the mechanics of reproduction and of course the woman doesn't have to be in any particular position for conception to occur but, myth or not, it worked for me after 3 years of infertility treatment and a friend.

You need to stop thinking about it and have sex when you fancy it. Worrying will not help you conceive.