what would you ttc'ers want from a new acquaintance/hopefully friend?

[MuchLessTiredNow]

I have met a lovely lady who is in her 3rd cycle of IVF and very raw (completely understandably). I conceived after the first cycle, and now have 3, and so want to be there for her, but also am aware how hard it is to be around people with young children at her stage. I really like her, and don't want to do anything to upset her, I have invited her for supper a couple of times, obviously when the dcs are in bed, and have shared a bit so that she knows I am sympathetic, but really don't want to hurt her by being too well meaning - does that make sense?

Hi there,

I'm sure your friend won't be hurt by you - you sound like a really thoughtful friend. I'm struggling to conceive now after a miscarriage last year and in the last few months 4 friends have become pregnant, one a really close friend. We have discussed my worries, but I also like to hear how she's getting on and we give each other a lot of support.

I think you would know if your friend was struggling with seeing you/hearing about your children or whatever. You sound so lovely and caring, I think you're perhaps being oversensitive actually!

Perhaps it's worth saying something to her - although I'm sure she'll know you might be feeling a bit awkward. xx

I am a bit nervous about it as when I was trying for no 2, I had a friend who was ttc her first, and we got quite close, but when I fell pg with no 2 she was really upset and terminated the friendship, saying it had been hard enough seeing me with dc1, let alone pg with another. I am sure I handled bits of it badly, and don't want to hurt anyone else.

Hi, me and my DP have recently decided to try for our first child together, even though I have had 3 before (ages 19,16,13) it seems a million years ago and all so new. I think to have a friend that is so supportive and understanding to help through the rough and the smooth is priceless - dont be put off x