Positive test at 11 DPO and struggling with anxiety

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hi, i just took a pregnancy test and got a positive at 11 dpo. But after having a stillbirth and a misscarriage and a couple of chemical pregnancies between some of my children, im obsessing over everythnig. i cant function. how do people cope? im nervous my nipples arent as erect as yesterday and my breast dont feel as full. i feel like im going crazy.

Anyone? tell me anything

Im so very sorry for your losses, a stillbirth would be the hardest thing to come back from and your very brave for trying again. You got to remind yourself that right now your pregnant, no matter what happens later you can be happy for now. Nothing is wrong at the moment so put your time and efforts into doing something you enjoy and keeping your mind off the what ifs. Of course this is going to be hard, you have suffered with your losses that no one should ever have to go through. Try to focus on the now. You cant change whats going or not going to happen so you may as well try to enjoy the fact you have had a postive pregnancy test and worry about the rest later. You should be classed as high risk by your care provider and hopefully monitored very closely so you dont have to ever go through a still birth again. I completely get where your coming from. Iv had 11 mc, 1 cp, and have had to endure a tmfr at 16 weeks. Every positive test comes with so much panic and anxiety but I focus myself and try to enjoy getting past each step and each stage. I try to focus on my family through the first trimester and not look to far into the future and just focus on the now.

its so difficult not to keep on poking my breast, analyzing the color etc. i feel like i lost my brains

And im so very sorry for your losses. Thank you for the advice. My thyroid levels arent stable because it gets inflamed after birth so i need to have it monitered weekly with blood tests now.

Anyone else?

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know a little about this kind of anxiety. It's not the same but I had a missed miscarriage at the dating scan and then two recurrent early losses at 5 weeks. When I got pregnant again I genuinely thought I was losing my mind. I got in such a state so I do know what it feels like.

This might not work for everyone and probably doesn't sound the healthiest way, but I tried to focus on my work. Hyper focused on it so I had a distraction for 8 hours of the day. The mornings and evenings were still bad but I had 8 hours where I wouldn't google or spiral. I don't know if you work but some form of distraction to reduce the hours of worrying could help.

I was super strict about only testing once a day in the morning. Then I would be at my most fearful when looking at the test first thing and seeing the line would help me for half the day.

Then I stopped testing at or before the 6 week mark. I didn't want to panic over the hook effect reducing line colour. Then it was a week until my scan at the clinic. 7 weeks was good as it was a definite heartbeat and clear cut. I will say the week in between stopping testing and that scan was the worst for my anxiety. I cried on the phone to my parents probably every other day. It in no way harmed my son, so don't feel guilty!

After that it was a focused sprint to my next scan every 2 weeks. I was being sick by that point and it helped. I was never sick with my other pregnancies.

Sorry this is a ramble. Not sure if it helps. I think distraction and keeping busy for large stretches of the day is the way.

Thank you so much for your reply and im really sorry for your losses. its so difficult. yesterday my breast felt a lot fuller. i need to just take deep breaths and know im not in control

Sorry for your losses.

I had a loss last August. Currently pregnant again but very early on and feeling so anxious too. I can’t enjoy it because I’m terrified I’ll lose it again. I keep symptom checking etc.

no advice from me sorry but wanted to say I’m in a similar boat.

The losses really do take away the excitement when you first get that positive test. The brain just goes into worry mode and you just wait for it all to go wrong. As hard as it is, try to think about the best case scenario. You cant change the outcome no matter what you think and feel so you may as well try to find some enjoyment in the small steps and each stages, that way if everything goes to plan you can say you felt some enjoyment during the pregnancy and didnt worry it away. Try to concentrate on the that positive pregnancy test and hold on to that little pregnancy bubble. I really do hope it all goes well for you both. I do understand the anxiety but for me I try not to think to far ahead, but dont get me wrong, with each blood test and ultrasound thats when emotions start to heighten and I really have to bring myself back down. Having good support is key in my opinion, bouncing off all your emotions, feeling and thoughts too a supportive partner, family member or friend who can help keep you grounded is really important.

So true. Im trying to focus on the next hour instead of down the road. I actually felt a warm gush down there, i went to check and it wasnt blood thank G-d. Im just wondering if that is normal. i dont remeber experiencing that the other times and if it did happen it was usually blood

My heart is still pounding from going to the bathroom to check

Anyone has anything esle to say?

I’ve had this the last day or so. When I go to check it’s been discharge but it’s been heavier than what I usually get. No blood or anything and a clear colour. Mentioning it to my GP next week as I have an appointment.