really fed up and cant be bothered anymore :-(

[tink08]

hi everyone for those who dont know we've been ttc number 2 for over a year now and no joy except i miscarriage in march . We're still ttc but i'm really down and fed up this month when i'm normally all over my husband ( i'm on day 12 of my cycle ) i just dont feel the same this month . I think it might be coz o was 5 days late last month and was beginning to think i was pregnant only to find out as usual i'm not . I'm only 26 and no health problems but i do feel crap this week .
Has anyone else been through a phase like this ?
sorry to ramble .... oh and i'm working loads to try and keep my mind of it , i'm going there in a minute actually

tink08

Have you talked to your GP about this issue?.
I would seriously consider talking to your GP now. Actually secondary subfertility (this is a situation whereby the first child was readily conceived but problems arise when it comes to the second) is not all that uncommon.

What are your menstrual cycles like?. I ask this as if they are either heavy, painful and or irregular in nature it is best to seek medical advice sooner rather than later. Both of you should be tested to see if either one of you has a problem preventing conception.

HTH a bit

Attila

Yes, I have felt like this. I had fertility treatment, so slightly different, but I can clearly remember feeling utterly fed up with the whole thing when I had had several rounds of treatment and no success. As it happens, I had to take a break from TTC to have more tests, and it turned out to best the best thing that could have happened. It was nice to get off the merry-go-round for a month or two and catch my breath, if you see what I mean.

Perhaps that would work for you. It is utterly exhausting sometimes, isn't it?

Hi tink
It's really Shi**y isn't it? We started trying for number two last august, and apart from one m/c in Feb, have had no luck at all. DS was concieved really quickly, and I guess I assumed it would be that easy again.
Can't believe almost a year has past now, and have decided to make an appointment with GP in two weeks. Thoroughy fed up and exhausted with all the OPKs, HPTs, etc... and i'm not that old either!
I think, like Misstittlemouse suggests, I will get tests ordered and take a break for a month or two. x

Chin up, Tink! I know how you feel - I am childless, been ttc for 2.5 years and now on Clomid. I felt a lot like you last month, after having sex every other day and still no joy (well, you know what I mean ).

It made me feel a bit 'self destructive', ie. I went out and bought fags, despite having not smoked for ages, and I had a big night on the lash.

A bit more cheery so far this month.

Maybe you should give your self a month off. I have found it a help to stay off the temping, and off daily doses of lurking in MN 'conception threads'. This way you can go for some time without thinking about it!

Tink I do understand what you are going through - DH tried with his first wife for over 20 years before she died, then with me for ages. We only conceived after we were told we couldn't, and I went through a big period of feeling 'well what's the bloody point'. We eventually gave up and conceived that month but what I reckon did it for me, was a hypnoconception CD -I'd been convinced that there was something wrong with me, and it was only retraining my mind to believe there was bugger all wrong that made the difference.

I'm pregnant for the fourth time - I've had two miscarriages, but have one 20 month old DD and am 34 weeks with a DS. So it can work out.

Perhaps the answer for you is to stop trying and just take a few months out. Or consider using a hypnoconception CD or something to get your confidence back.

It is bloody awful though, I remember seeing all these chavvy women heavily pregnant smoking and pushing prams and thinking 'ungrateful bitches'.

Chances are in a few months time, you will be merrily bulbous though - the average time taken to conceive is 13 months in this country - so you aren't actually doing too badly.

Good luck

Ah I'm sorry I misread your post, I see you already have one child. If you have a regular cycle it may be worth seeing your GP just to check you are ovulating, but you are still normal in terms of time taken to conceive.

hi all thanks for you responses . we have given it a go this month and will wait and see if bfp . if we dont concieve this month i think we'll give it a break for a few months and chill until i feel ready again . af due 5th july so heres to the 2 week wait x x x

Hi Tink, also TTC2 for over 12 months, I am 35 and have seen GP, and been referred on ... only cycle monitoring, but nothing has happened as yet. DS1 conceived once we had a break, he took over a year. I have been told that 90% conceive within the year and 10% take longer. My imagination runs wild every time i get a longer cycle. Seeing my GP has given me a lift, as did the referral which confirmed that the obvious things were normal! Probably worth a visit.