*Mention of MMC loss * TTC advice, support, understanding

[AnonymousUser101]

Myself and my husband started ttc last year and fortunately fell pregnant in our second cycle trying but sadly had a mmc and we lost our baby.

We have been trying again since December 2025 and just having no luck at all. We’ve had 4 cycles now and I’ve got my period every time. It feels like it’s taking forever and also so disheartening every month and just feels like it’s never going to happen again. I started using ovulation strips this month aswell, we both take conception vitamins.

At this point it’s just so frustrating, stressful, upsetting and we both just want a baby so badly but I feel like I lose hope each month that goes by and I get my period.

Im just looking for some advice, support, understanding. My husband just keeps saying ‘don’t think about it’ ‘It will happen’ but it just doesn’t help and he just doesn’t get it.

Im so very sorry for your loss. Having a mc is so hard, the future you saw yourself having is ripped away and there is no taking it back. Since your mmc its been 4 months, its not anything to worry about just yet and I know its frustrating and hard, now you have your ovulation strips you can have more accurate knowledge of when your going to ovulate. Your husband is not helping by telling you to not think about it. But he has a point. At this early stage try to have fun with it, take the pressure off and dont make around ovulatio so robotic, have a weekend away and drink some wine, have fun, do some bonding time. All the things to take the pressure off. If after 12 months it still hasnt worked then definitely get some testing done or just jump straight in and talk to a fertility spefialist who can do everything for you. I hope it works put for you sooner rather then later.

@Miraclemuma03 Thank you so much ❤️

Hi @AnonymousUser101 I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s heartbreaking, I understand the hurt and feeling of hopelessness and just wanting a baby so badly.

I hope i can give you a little hope….me & my hubby were 5 year total with a year of fertility treatment. I had 2 miscarriages, first miscarriage was our second cycle of treatments in sept 2023, the other one was a missed miscarriage that I fell pregnant naturally with Jan 2025. I thought I wasn’t going to happen for us and was worried about going through ivf.
We found out for 3rd time we were pregnant in June 2025 just as we got to the top of the waiting list for ivf but didn’t need it as that pregnancy was successful and my little one is 7 weeks of today!

It’s so hard each month negative after negative I completely understand and you feel like more hope is lost each time. Through our journey I felt like that and i struggled so bad at times mentally but I tried my best to turn my think positively by thinking each month that goes by just means we are closer to our baby and that the little one that is meant to be here is just waiting for the right time. Sometimes that think was so difficult though but it kept a little bit of hope for us.
our years of hurt and loss finally makes some sort of sense now when I look at my little ones face, it wouldn’t of been him if we hadn’t been through what we have.

Your ovulation sticks will be helpful for timing and good yous both take vitamins that will all be helpful!
I agree with pp if you get to the 12 month mark definitely reach out to get the ball rolling with some fertility help, but if you are over 35 I think 6months is when they would offer help fertility wise but I’m not sure.
I totally agree also with pp @Miraclemuma03 definitely try have fun with it, have weekly date nights if possible, enjoy each other and try not put too much pressure on yourself or your hubby. I know it’s hard but from experience of a long ttc journey I promise you it will make it that little bit easier mentally for yourself, be kind to yourself with self care, meditation and keeping yourself physically and mentally healthy❤️ sending you positive vibes and a happy future xx

@LittleLemonPie thank you for sharing you story and your kind words. I am so happy for you that your story worked out and you got the baby you had longed for. It is nice to feel some understanding and to hear a positive story ❤️

It is so hard, sorry for your loss. Similar to you i got pregnant quickly first time; had a MC at 11 week. It then took 5 months to get pregnant again and that was using ovulation strips. Hang in there - it’s common for your body to need time to adjust after the pregnancy. And dont forgot it is normal to take a year to get pregnant. You can only keep busy, make plans to do things to like. I found focusing on house/garden projects really helped me. I also saw a counsellor which really helped