Mental health - miscarriages & TTC

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It’s coming up to 3 years since we started TTC for our first baby. In that time I’ve had multiple miscarriages & a pcos diagnosis.
The past couple of weeks my low mood has been triggered by absent ovulation. Struggling to get myself out of this mood i’m in. Does anyone have any tips or suggestions on how you cope with a long TTC journey or miscarriages?

Ah gosh , I think everyone just has their own coping mechanism and its about finding what works for you.
The only thing I can suggest is just to distract yourself as much as possible. Do what you can throw yourself into without thinking about it.
Have you any hobbies?
I struggled for 18 years then finally got pregnant but lost it. I then went on to have my son ( he was conceived via ivf) . I have pcos also. Im currently trying for #2 and i did a second round of ivf but fell pregnant naturally during the cycle. It ended in another loss at 6 weeks . Since that, ive fell pregnant every cycle for the past 4 cycles , all loses and im not pregnant again. Im 6 weeks.
I dont think you ever get over the anxiety.
Have you spoke to your gp to get referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic?
My epu are seeing me for an early scan due to my previous loses. If you do get pregnant that may be something they will offer.
If you get to 6 weeks they should offer progesterone. I was on progesterone with my sons pregnancy and they are giving it to me this week. Pcos can sometimes affect progesterone levels. Are you on metformin?
Ill be honest , I didnt religiously take it these previous months but im trying to ensure I take all the supplements I need. Ive upped my dose of metformin now to try and lower my miscarriage risk. Im also back taking myo inositol which was advised.
Aswell as helping to regulate insulin , both help regulate cycles and ovulation.
Ive no idea if any of this helped but I suffer from extremely irregular cycles, often months or years a without a period. The last few months since August ive been taking my ova , the pink and yellow and q10 , also drinking matcha every day until ovulation and ive been ovulating bang on day 14 every month.
Have they referred you to try clomid? Unfortunately it didnt work for me , it didnt help ovulation but some women say it helped them

Hey, sorry for all you’ve been through. The miscarriages have been so difficult, but then having pcos on top just makes it an even longer process. Yeah I’m under a recurrent miscarriage clinic, I’m on different medications with them if I get pregnant again. I also take metformin & inositol & thought it was working for me, but I’m on day 35 of a cycle this month without ovulation so obviously not working as well for me anymore. I’ve not been offered clomid, it’s all very much like oh you can get pregnant fairly easily, we’ll just leave you to it.

I think you need to set time through the week each week to do an activity, something as a couple or treating yourself to something that doesnt revolve around ttc. Also I think after 3 yrs of ttc its time to talk to a fertility specialist to try something new. Ttc can be ever so consuming and just takes over your life and when that happens you need to find joy in something else to keep you happy in a long heartbreaking journey and if what your doing now isnt working then something else needs to be done.

@Miraclemuma03 yeah I do think I need to make more plans on an evening or something. I’ve looked at private options for fertility & it’s mega expensive. And seeing as I do get pregnant, I’m not sure if it’s the right route. Already under a consultant for miscarriages

Keep going with the metformin myo inositol. They take a few months in your system before they really work. What dosage are you on

I’ve been on them both for over a year 😢 I take 1500g metformin a day and 4000mg myo inositol & also a healthy weight

Honestly therapy was a game changer for me. I would get stuck in a negative spiral and it was always work when progesterone was high. CBT gave me the tools to break those cycles. Also realising it was the progesterone triggering the worst episodes helped me at least identify what was happening.

Reducing other stressors also helped – having open chats with my husband about expectations so we’re on the same page.

And I now have a weekly bath night where I allow myself me-time to read, eat chocolate, soak in the bubbles with nice music, do a face mask, have a shave, etc. It’s both something to look forward to and a time I’m allowing myself to enjoy without any responsibilities or duties. To much of my brain power is spent on ‘shoulds’.

So sorry to hear you’ve had such a tough time. I’ve also have a couple of miscarriages, so really sympathise from that point of view. During the months of ttc with no luck I found myself not wanting to make plans just in case. I tried really hard to get out of that mindset and got back to doing the things that make me feel like myself. Don’t get me wrong, it was still hard getting the negatives each month, but I at least had things to look forward to. I also started talking to a couple of friends about it all. Having people who I could actually chat to honestly, when I was feeling crap really helped too. Especially if your OH is like mine and prefers not to talk about losses etc for their own MH Xx