Chasing The Rainbow: TTC after a loss.

[Blooped]

Hey there,

The names Bloop, and I've found myself back here as we start TTC, following an ectopic last year.

I can't believe how fast this last 12 months has gone and that I am finally at the point again of wanting to TTC. I needed the time off to allow myself to heal and because I did not want to put too much additional pressure on myself.

I've been tracking my ovulation over recent months with OPK test strips and on the PreMom app and it says I'm due to ovulate today. We have DTD several times already this week, so fingers crossed!

This is our first official month of trying and I'm both a bit nervous and excited. Excited of what is potentially to come but nervous about the whole pregnancy thing. I don't think I'll ever relax

I'm mid thirties this year and was very much hoping for a 2026 baby! However, I know it may take its time.

I guess I'd just like to find a place where I can document my thoughts and feelings and maybe speak to others in the same situations!

It is the dreaded TWW shortly, of which I hate. I'm so impatient and want to know things immediately. This is something I'm working on and I'd also like to leave testing as long as possible, to try and not get my hopes up.

After my ectopic last year, I began to get a bit obsessed with testing and tracking progression lines which I know is unhealthy and that's something I want to avoid this time round.

If anyone fancies a chat or a check in, say hello!

Hi, very sorry to hear about your ectopic. I had a mmc in December and have begun trying, or will do when I ovulate, again this month for child number 3. It’s taken me a while to conceive before (6m, 9m, 7m) which is why I was so keen to begin trying again so soon after the mmc. Fingers crossed we can still have a 2026 baby 🤞

Hi OP, so sorry to hear about your ectopic. It really is rough.How are you feeling? I had an ectopic in 2024, 10 months of ttc after then a chemical. Currently going through testing and fertility refferal but have been rejected due to being able to concieve within 12 months. Also an obsessive tester! Wishing you the best of luck for this cycle x

Hello,
So sorry @Blooped and others that your in this position
also ttc first baby after an ectopic here - lost a tube to ectopic in 2024 and on cycle 11 of ttc since.
Also just had a fertility referral and waiting on first appointment… but thinking more and more about going privately for treatment in the summer given the NHS waits - coming up to 2 years ttc not sure I can go much longer without ‘doing’ anything
@Magicstar2025 I’m sorry that’s so rubbish your referral got rejected :(

wishing you all the best 💕

Hey everyone!

Wow, thank you for your replies and support.

I was lucky last year that my ectopic was successfully treated with methotrexate and I didn't require surgery.

I'm officially 2DPO today and now in the dreaded TWW.

I really do not want to be testing so early and obsessively.. but I know what I'm like!

I get anxiety of not knowing and would much rather know straight away, then get my hopes up.

I'm only 33 but I am so conscious that time is passing by so quickly.

I think I'm going to try and forget about TTC and focus on losing some weight and getting more regular exercise over the next few weeks/months and if it happens, it happens.

I will still track my ovulation and be more mindful around that time of the month but I just don't want it to take over my whole life.

I'm questioning whether to maybe join slimming world and just follow the plan loosely.