Could I be pregnant?

lauribec · 2025-12-21T21:15:30+00:00

This year my periods have been all over the place, I used to be regular as clockwork and could predict to the day when my period would start. I even had a short 3 week cycle a couple of months back! Typically in the week before my period I get very sore boobs and it tails off until my period starts. This month no soreness until my period was due to start (yesterday) but that was when I started to get the soreness. We had unprotected sex this Monday and he pulled out (the only time this month) is it possible I could have got pregnant? Perhaps this is just another irregular month for me! Any thoughts please? Thanks!

Tillow4ever · 22/12/2025 01:25

Obviously any time you have unprotected sex you could fall pregnant. Do you have any idea when you ovulated?

I’m presuming you haven’t started your period yet if you say it was due to start yesterday? It’s possible that you aren’t going to get your period for another week with your cycle being irregular… but if that’s the case there’s a strong chance you were ovulating around the time you had unprotected sex.

If you were due on yesterday, and no sign of your period yet, I would take a pregnancy test. If money is tight for buying a test, I’d wait a week and see if you come on next weekend, and if not I would test then. It’s possible that it’s too early to test right now.

What I wasn’t clear on with your post - was Monday the only time you had unprotected sex this month, or was that the only time he pulled out this month? If the former, there’s likely a higher chance you are pregnant.

Good luck whichever way you want this to go!

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lauribec · 22/12/2025 08:57

Tillow4ever · 22/12/2025 01:25

Obviously any time you have unprotected sex you could fall pregnant. Do you have any idea when you ovulated?

I’m presuming you haven’t started your period yet if you say it was due to start yesterday? It’s possible that you aren’t going to get your period for another week with your cycle being irregular… but if that’s the case there’s a strong chance you were ovulating around the time you had unprotected sex.

If you were due on yesterday, and no sign of your period yet, I would take a pregnancy test. If money is tight for buying a test, I’d wait a week and see if you come on next weekend, and if not I would test then. It’s possible that it’s too early to test right now.

What I wasn’t clear on with your post - was Monday the only time you had unprotected sex this month, or was that the only time he pulled out this month? If the former, there’s likely a higher chance you are pregnant.

Good luck whichever way you want this to go!

I have no clue at all! 🫣 no period yet and still feeling tender. I was thinking the same thing, perhaps it’s just a longer cycle this time! Having checked back, 31 days has been my longest cycle and now currently on day 32 so not wildly out I guess.

OH is off for 2 weeks and so there’s no way I can test during this time (he is adament he wants no more babies) with Christmas approaching I’m trying to keep my mind occupied and to not overthink things.

Sorry I wasn’t clear - Monday was the only time we’ve been intimate at all this month and he’s pulled out.

Thank you! I’d love another but sadly we aren’t on the same page :(

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Tillow4ever · 22/12/2025 09:17

lauribec · 22/12/2025 08:57

I have no clue at all! 🫣 no period yet and still feeling tender. I was thinking the same thing, perhaps it’s just a longer cycle this time! Having checked back, 31 days has been my longest cycle and now currently on day 32 so not wildly out I guess.

OH is off for 2 weeks and so there’s no way I can test during this time (he is adament he wants no more babies) with Christmas approaching I’m trying to keep my mind occupied and to not overthink things.

Sorry I wasn’t clear - Monday was the only time we’ve been intimate at all this month and he’s pulled out.

Thank you! I’d love another but sadly we aren’t on the same page :(

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I’m sorry but your OH is a fucking dick! HE doesn’t want more babies but chose to have unprotected sex with you and use the notoriously unreliable pull out method? And now you’re worried about testing because he’s around. In a loving and supportive relationship you shouldn’t be feeling this worried. Are you safe?

If you are pregnant, are you going to terminate because he doesn’t want a baby? I would hope you would only terminate if you don’t want a baby because it’s your body and your choice. If you know for certain you would terminate, I would suggest testing asap as it will help easier the less far along you are. I would also make it clear to him you are testing and why so that he knows not to play with your health in this way!

If you know you will keep the baby regardless, then I guess it won’t hurt to wait to test. But if you think you will be on edge over the holidays, could you pop to a supermarket, buy a test, then test in the toilets there? That way you can get rid of the packaging etc without him knowing.

Regardless of the outcome, I think it might be worth reviewing your relationship. He is incredibly selfish and cavalier in his attitude to you, and if you are this worried about his reaction I wonder if he might be abusive? If you aren’t sure, you could always post on here (relationships board is a good one) and ask for advice.

Yetegs · 22/12/2025 09:34

lauribec · 22/12/2025 08:57

I have no clue at all! 🫣 no period yet and still feeling tender. I was thinking the same thing, perhaps it’s just a longer cycle this time! Having checked back, 31 days has been my longest cycle and now currently on day 32 so not wildly out I guess.

OH is off for 2 weeks and so there’s no way I can test during this time (he is adament he wants no more babies) with Christmas approaching I’m trying to keep my mind occupied and to not overthink things.

Sorry I wasn’t clear - Monday was the only time we’ve been intimate at all this month and he’s pulled out.

Thank you! I’d love another but sadly we aren’t on the same page :(

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If you only last had sex on Monday and you were due on your period Saturday you couldn’t have got pregnant. You’d have ovulated long before Monday.
However if your periods are irregular now it’s obviously possible you were only just ovulating Monday and have become pregnant. But if that’s the case, you wouldn’t have been due on your period yet so I wouldn’t be concerned by lack of period yet as an indicator of pregnancy. You’ll only be about 7dpo now so unlikely to have a test show up. To get a definite result you’ll need to wait at least another week.

SnowFrogJelly · 22/12/2025 09:40

If he’s so against more babies he should have worn a condom!