Failed fresh transfer – start FET in Dec or wait for Jan? Anyone been through similar?

[Nikc89]

Hi all

Looking for some experiences/advice as my head is all over the place.

I’m 36 and had a fresh blastocyst transfer on 15 November. Unfortunately I started bleeding on 27 November (heavy, with clots) and tested negative. My official pregnancy test was meant to be 28 November, but it was clear the transfer had failed.

I’m not even 100% sure whether the bleeding was a proper period or bleeding caused by the meds stopping – it felt like a period, but timing-wise it’s all a bit confusing.

I have one frozen embryo.

Initially the clinic suggested waiting for one normal cycle before starting a frozen embryo transfer, but then at my follow-up they said I could start a medicated FET cycle on 26 December instead.

Now I’m really torn:

• Part of me thinks doing it in December is fine and avoids a long wait
• Another part of me wonders if I’m emotionally rushing into it because the fresh transfer only failed recently
• Waiting until January would mean having a normal period and maybe feeling more settled, but it also feels like a very long 6-week wait when time already feels precious at 36

The clinic has said hormone-wise it’s fine to go ahead in December, but I’m struggling to decide what’s best for me.

Has anyone:

• Started an FET cycle straight after a failed fresh transfer?
• Or waited one cycle and felt it helped emotionally or physically?
• Had success either way?

Would really appreciate hearing how others decided, especially with just one embryo left.

Thanks so much ❤️

IVF is such a tough process and emotionally draining

my own personal experience, I had 2 failed frozen transfers pretty much back to back, a further egg retrieval and got 2 embryos but decided to take some time out before further frozen transfers, took about 10 months, worked on self, got self in a good place mentally, health wise made sure I was eating right and on right supplements and worked with a specialist fertility acupuncturist. The 3rd transfer worked. I’m pretty sure taking the time out helped. I know it’s such a difficult time and there is no physical need to wait but taking a bit of time breathing space can help. The emotional side is so much harder than physical. Hope all goes well whatever you decided. ❤️.

As above said, ivf is so draining and hard on our body but everyone is individual with their needs and what they can manage. I have decided to take a break over xmas and the new year and then jump back into it all in Feb or march depending on my cycles. Sometimes a break is good but some people jump right back in because they feel up too it and thats ok too. You do what you feel is right for you mentally and emotionally and physically.

Also their is an infertility page you could jump over too and get a lot more advice and some people will be on your same time line..

Enjoy Christmas and then do the treatment.