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Am I being too hopeful?

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CreativeNest · 09/12/2025 21:40

I'm TTC my second child. I'm 9dpo and got a BFN. Last time I felt my lower back being very sore on 8dpo which was unusual for me and got my BFP the next day. This time I've had lower stomach and back pain on and off since I ovulated. Sometimes it's like an ache and sometimes it's sharp. This is TMI and a bit embarrassing but I think it's just gas pains. I've been constipated too. Which is all very unusual for my body. I'm having heartburn too now. The other sort of 'symptom' I'm having is fatigued. I haven't felt this tired in about a year. I feel like these symptoms make more sense to be related to just the luteal phase where my progesterone levels are high but at the same time since I don't ever get these symptoms I'm unsure. It seems like a lot of people get positives on the early detection tests at 8-9dpo where they see at least a very faint line. I feel like I'm out this month but a little part of me wants to hold onto some hope. TTC can be so stressful 😅 Do I sound too hopeful should I just let it go and accept that this was not my month? It's so annoying being stuck in between where you don't know

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Pidgeypidge · 09/12/2025 21:46

I think it is easy to drive yourself mad symptom spotting in the TWW. The 3 times I've been pregnant were the months I had no symptoms until after my period was late. 8 or 9dpo is VERY early to get a BFP, so you're not out yet just because you got a BFN at 9dpo. (With my last pregnancy, I was 15dpo before I got a hint of a BFP).

GladDenimGoose · 09/12/2025 22:39

@CreativeNest I'm tearing my hair out just the same as you. I tested negative yesterday but I'm still clinging on to hope that it was just too early. I find myself reading all sorts of forums and just desperately wanting someone to tell me I could be pregnant. So I hear you and I'm hopeful with you!

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