Advise on TTC baby 2

[wog]

Just decided to try for baby no , dd 21/2, we tried for 8 months to have her I know that really that is not a long time but I need some advise on how to make it happen quickly to save the heartache every month - now remember I know the "you need to have sex" advice.... lol :0

pinkdiamond I know I am 29 and have a baby but I dont know how to work that out exactly - is it 2 weeks after the last day of my period if not could you please advise

Thanks pinkdiamomd

but you can't rely on that entirely as not everyone ovulates 14 days after day 1. the easiest way without doing temps is to monitor your cervical mucus. i know it sounds gross but all you have to do is look out for it when you wipe after going for a wee. approximately 14 days (give or take depending on the individual) after your first red blood day of your period, look out for clear discharge that resembles egg-white (we call it ewm as an abbreviation on the ttc boards). it looks a bit like sprem but it's more stretchy. this means that your vagina is more susceptible to sperm and this mucus actually helps the sperm along. when you get this mucus you are at your most fertile. it usually lasts a couple of days.
you could always buy an ovulation kit one month as well, just to make sure you're ovulating, but they are quite expensive.
hope this helps. good luck!

I agree with Moomin that checking your cervical mucous is your best bet, unless you want to get into checking temps every morning, etc. It's also good to stay hydrated (mucous is mostly water, so drink lots of fluids around that time) and to take prenatal vitamins while you're trying. They generally have a good mix of B vitamins that help fertility. Good luck! We're trying for No2 too. DS is 2 1/2 so we're in the same boat. Hope it happens quickly for you. The waiting is a nightmare.

Hi Wog. I am currently towards the end of cycle 5 of TTC baby #2. DD took a while to concieve - 15 months, early m/c, then another 15 months. I am now temping every morning, and checking CM - I record it all on the Fertility Friend website, which will then determine OV for you. And it keeps a record of your cycle length, etc.

Try and become more aware of your own body and what it is doing. Try to pinpoint when OV might be too if you can.

And good luck!

Yep, cervical mucous method worked beautifully for us!

Thanks everyone, so if I started bleeding on 20th Jan I should check my mucas (ewm) on 3rd Feb? Hulababy what is the website that you have mentioned?

www.fertilityfriend.com

You check your CM every day (except when bleeding). As your cycle progresss your CM will change.

In the most common pattern, cervical fluid starts out dry after your period and then gets sticky, then creamy, then wet and watery, becoming most like eggwhite as you get closer to ovulation. You may get different types of cervical fluid on the same day

This is what FF tells you to look for:

Dry: you have no cervical fluid present at all; if you notice no cervical fluid in your underwear; and if the outside of your vagina feels dry. You can expect to see dry days both before ovulation after your period and after ovulation.

Sticky: if it is glue-like, gummy, stiff or crumbly and if it breaks easily and quickly and if it is not easily stretched. It will probably be yellowish or white, but could also be cloudy/clear. You may or may not see some sticky cervical fluid before and after ovulation.

Creamy: It is like hand lotion, white or yellow or cloudy/clear, like milk or cream, mayonnaise or like a flour/water solution. It may stretch slightly but not very much and break easily.

Watery: Your cervical fluid is clear and most resembles water. It may be stretchy also. This cervical fluid is considered fertile and this may be your most fertile cervical fluid or you may get it before you get eggwhite cervical fluid or you may not get this type of fluid at all.

Eggwhite: This is your most fertile cervical fluid. Your cervical fluid looks at all like real eggwhite, is stretchy and clear, or clear tinged with white, or even clear tinged with pink. It also resembles semen (and has a lot of the same physical properties to allow the sperm to travel and be nourished). You should be able to stretch it between your thumb and index finger.

Spotting: any pink or dark red/brown spots that leave a small mark on your underwear or pantyliner or that you only see when you wipe. You may see spotting before or after your period, around the time of ovulation or around the time of implantation if you conceive.

Menses: choose light, normal and heavy. That is the first day that you have red blood flow that requires a pad or tampon. This is cycle day one.

wow ladies your educating me! thanks for that I too am gona give the conception thing another go for no2 later on this year, so thanks and good luck to all

And just to add, checking cm isn't difficult. Just take note of what's on the paper when you go to the loo. Some women never see EW but if at certain times of the month it seems slippy when you wipe (sorry if TMI!) then that' probably EW.