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Conception

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Sat in doctors waiting room next to pregnant lady felt like crying

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lostittoday · 07/06/2008 08:47

Hi
ttc for 9 months and getting worried that its not going to happen due to my age, thyroid problems, history of early menopause in family etc.
I know how pathetic I will sound but I sat in doctors surgery yesterday when a pregnant lady sat next to me with her little girl.
The lady was pointing to her bump and saying to her litle girl that she will be having a little brother or sister to play with and was putting her daughters hand to her, stomach etc, etc.
I sat there and felt like crying due to the fact that I am so desperate to get pregnant and I am so sad that it will porbably not happen now due to various things.
I am such a mess emotinally and don,t know how to get out of this.
I am also beating myslef up that my ds may end up an only and its killing me.
Can anybody relate to these feelings.

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lulumama · 07/06/2008 08:50

really sorry to hear that.

i am sure that it is incredibly difficult when you are yearning for a baby, and everyone around you is pregnant or just had a baby, so it seems.

have you been referred to a specialist, if you have lots of potential issues that are going to make TTC very difficult?

CaptainKarvol · 07/06/2008 08:51

You poor thing. Yes, I can relate. TTC 12 cycles now, and the crying starts earlier every month for me. Are you getting any treatment / investigations? I wish I could offer words that would fix it all for you, but you are not alone feeling this way. It is very, very hard sometimes.

hertsnessex · 07/06/2008 08:56

you are not alone. my chance of having a third was taken away and for 2yrs i felt like you, it seems selfish as i have 2, but lost my 3rd and didnt have a chance of having a third due to surgery.

you have to let yourself 'grieve' for what would have been. please don't give up hope though - try to stay positive.

if your ds ends up an only child - he will thrive - you will learn to accept it and life will continue.

my close friend is pregnant with her third - didn't want to tell me - i am v pleased for her though - and i did cry intitially (in her bathroom!) when she said but now i think that I am lucky - i have my children and god blessed me with those - what will be will be and although at one point id have given anything for the sleepless nights - now i am enjoying my independance from babyhood!

be kind to yourself xxx

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lostittoday · 07/06/2008 08:58

I am under the care of a fertility clinic, its early days though.
Had my first appointment a couple of weeks ago, they want to carry out hormone tests first ie day 21, day 2 etc.
They want to do these first to find out if I am prefectly normal or if I am going to need their help as they put it.

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gillydaffodil · 07/06/2008 10:09

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Yarnie · 07/06/2008 10:23

lostit Had to reply and say I really hope that everything falls into place for you soon and that the fertility clinic will help you realise your wishes {{hug}}

I also wanted to tell you that I and my DF were only children and had deliriously happy childhoods and benefited from a lot of love from our parents. We have both grown up to be social, successful, well-adjusted people. I know this is not the point of your distress - wanting a baby goes deeper than the sibling status of your children - but I just wanted to reassure you that it needn't matter one jot to your DD.

Lots of luck to you

nomoremagnolia · 07/06/2008 10:54

lostit I have seen you post quite a few things like this in the last few days and I'm getting rather worried about you. Please seek some help from a counsellor to deal with your feelings, although they are prefectly normal it sounds like they are tearing you apart inside.

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lostittoday · 07/06/2008 12:12

Thanks for all your words of encouragement.
nomoremagnolia your right its tearing me apart and I feel a bit ridiculous tbh.
I know there are people on here going through the same and my situation isn,t any different.
I just don,t cope with things that well but can honestly say that this has stressed me out more than anything in my life.
I am so hoping that I will get a bfp and I won,t have to worry any more.

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nomoremagnolia · 07/06/2008 14:19

I still think you should seek some help, I have been ttc#1 for 2 1/2 years and the 9-12 months stage was definitely the hardest bit. I hope you get out if it through a BFP, but you're putting even more importance on getting pg by doing that. I do fear you are setting yourself up for a huge crash if it's BFN this month. Can you talk to your GP about how it's making you feel - maybe don't ask for tests etc but talk about it in terms of your mental well-being (or not as the case may be )

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