How to lighten the disappointment of a BFN?

[katieak]

Hi all. We’ve been TTC for a little while now with no joy so far. As many of you do, I find the TWW so long and then being met each time with a BFN is disappointing to say the least. We try to keep upbeat and plod on to the next cycle but sometimes it’s easier said than done. Just wondered if anyone has any coping strategies to ease the feelings of being a bit fed up.

Sorry you’re going through this OP.

When we were TTC our first baby we had agreed that each month we would have a date night/weekend away/something planned for when my period was due so that we had something to look forward to, or distract us. It was still disappointing to get the BFN but at least if we had something nice planned it was a nice distraction.

One of my friends when TTC used to go out and buy a baby item every month that she got a BFN, to keep the hope that she would one day have her baby. Not sure this would be for everyone, I know personally I would have found it hard going baby clothes shopping when I had just got another negative test, but it worked for my friend and as she recently had her baby I know she loved being able to use all of those things that kept her going and positive through the journey.

Good luck x

Similar to the poster above, plan something nice for you and DP like a date night or something to look forward too. We've always done that and find it helps.

I tend to also run myself a nice hot bath and have some wine on the day I get my period, as a little treat to myself, and recommend that

Hope you get your BFP soon, it's a tough journey x

I used to let myself have a nice couple of glasses of wine (wasn’t drinking from ttc) and understand that the day I got my period I would want to feel moody and wallow, that I was allowed a day to be pissed (off not drunk) and then had to move on. I’d also listen to “rip it up and start again” heh. Those were just small things on actual period day. Other than that, I must say, I just couldn’t help but recognise that each month I found reason to hope again, and that in itself was a positive thought, that I was able to go through cycle after cycle and pick myself back up again. To recognise your own resilience feels good, and to recognise that even when you feel like shit, there are times when you feel pretty good again.