Trying to conceive after a miscarriage

[NessaShanessa88]

Hi everyone.

Just after some advice/reassurance really. After 5 months trying to conceive our second (already have a child aged 3) we sadly had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks at the end of last year.

After taking a couple of months off trying we started trying to conceive again in March this year, but are still yet to conceive again and now I’m really starting to worry. Typically my periods are also usually 27-29 days and now I’m on cycle day 32 with no sign of my period but have also tested negative once again on a pregnancy test!

Just looking for any advice or reassurance really from anyone who has experienced similar?

I'm sorry for your loss.

We started to try for our second in July 24. I fell pregnant in October 24 and miscarried at 7 weeks in Nov 24. We started to try again in January 25 and I finally fell pregnant again in October (now 6 weeks). I started to worry something was wrong and paid for private fertility tests and blood tests which showed no issues (which didn't make me feel better. It made me wonder even more why it wasn't happening). I don't really have advice and don't want to say 'it will happen' but I did want to say i know how you feel! It is a horrible place to be and I hope you get your positive soon!

Thanks so much for the reply! Pleased to hear you are now pregnant again - really hope all goes well for you this time 🙂

We also have some fertility tests booked in which I suppose is also making me quite anxious, hopefully they will give us an answer one way or another.

Sorry for your loss. Between my losses it's taken 6 months, 9 months, 6 months, 3 months to conceive again (now onto attempt 6, first month!). Up to a year is totally normal and doesn't mean anything is wrong, but I know just how frustrating it can be.

Hi lovely.
I had a miscarriage in September. I thought my period had started 3 weeks later but It was just a big patch of bleeding and nothing more since.
I've no clue where I am in my cycle. I'm not sure if that wss a period or if I'm yet to ovulate. So fustrating .

@VioIetMoon so sorry to hear about your loss too. It is all so frustrating and confusing isn’t it?!

My cycles never went back any semblance of normal after my miscarriage or subsequent pregnancy. I do have PCOS.

All I could do was have a lot of sex (by my standards!) I really did aim for every 2-3 days. I also used ovulation tests to help steer towards any period of time when we should switch to every day. This went on for 9 months or so.

I eventually came back from a lovely and relaxing holiday to find I was pregnant. Conceived the week before. That was my second (and probably last) pregnancy, my daughter is now 2.

Ttc is emotionally draining, the endless hope and disappointment cycles are exhausting. I really do recommend finding other projects and outlets for helping feel life isn't just on hold as you tackle "project make a baby". Now I've had one... God I wish I'd made more time for theatre, gigs, travel, visiting friends, sorting and decorating the house, while life didn't revolve around the baby...

Sending hugs. It is a hard place to be in.

Don't underestimate the impact the stress of the miscarriage and the anxiety around trying again can have on your body. My body didn't go back to 'normal' after my miscarriages and still birth. I 100% think doing things to help me relax and remove that stress is what aided in successfully falling pregnant afterwards.

I got to a place where I tried to focus on being healthy and finding things to do which reduced stress and anxiety (for me it was baking) rather than focusing on having a baby. It's really cliché but it worked for me.