Panic of being pregnant but want a baby

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I’ve got a child but we have then experienced TFMR, MMC, miscarriages and horrible sickness HG and two experiences where I felt like I was dying which honestly made me think I don’t want to be pregnant ever again.

We decided we might try again one more time (this is it no more and we are drawing a line) but the panic is setting in. I feel so sick due to the panic, pit of my stomach. Last month I thought I might be pregnant and i nearly had a panic attack but then cried when my period came. It’s so hard to want an end product but not want the process.

I have a consultant and a plan in place, I’ve been trying to loose some weight, take my vitamins and even got a therapist. But I still feel the panic it woke me up in the middle of the night.

Anyone had anything similar? Any tips?

Totally understandable emotions in your scenario. Personally that would give a reason to pause and really reflect on what I want.

Our priority is always to our existing family than the potential one. A pro/cons list is often a good place to start organising your thoughts / feelings to determine what you really want.

Similar feelings to me.

We had our DC after miscarriages including a twin loss, 2 hospital stays due to infection, haemorrhages. I had HG in my successful pregnancy and the most horrendous anxiety expecting loss every day.

My periods are now a bit all over the place since having my child and I’ve been diagnosed with PCOS. i’m obviously a little bit older now than when I had DC.

It is really scary going into the journey again again and unless you have had infertility or loss, some probably won’t understand and it’s really hard when others around you are so excited about trying for a second baby and you just don’t feel that way.

Me and my DH say it’s like stick or twist. You could get pregnant within six months and have a healthy pregnancy. Or, it could be another long heartbreaking journey. The reality is you’re never gonna know unless you try, which is the hardest part.

I also agree with this reply. Although I do not think you will ever be ready completely after going through loss or infertility when I felt in absolute panic mode, we gave it a year. I’m obviously not completely ready, but feel ready as I’ll ever be to do this journey again.

Your existing child and being a brilliant parent to them is main priority over the potential of another child that is only a thought right now.

I’m not sure how old you are but if you are in your late 20s or early 30s then give yourself six months to a year to get some therapy and have a really good think about what you want

Edit- accidental repost