Worrying about making plans

[Lollie2903]

Hi all,
My husband and I are very keen to start trying for baby no. 2 early next year. I don't know if its because I fell pregnant very quickly with my first I feel as though we cant be that lucky again or I'm just more aware of my age (33) now but I'm worrying about how long it will take already.
My question is, does anyone else feel like they don't want to make plans that might not work if they are pregnant?
Im MOH in 2027 and i'm already worried I wont be able to go to the hen or be there how she would like me to be etc. Not so much worried about the wedding as I would be there if I could but the hen is abroad and will be a year after we start trying to conceive (but the bride wants it booked asap as is going to cost a lot)
The bride does know about our plans but I do feel silly saying I don't want to book so far in advance because I might be pregnant?
We've also booked out family holiday for earlier in the year as I didn't want to risk that.
Feels like its all consuming already and I know nothing is guaranteed but I also don't have the money to be booking things and not being able to go so the thought of booking (big) events so far in advance is playing on my mind.

Anyone else or am I alone in this? haha

Thanks!

She wants to book her hen do and pay for it when it's not until 2027?! She needs to chill out, that's ridiculous. I wouldn't commit to that.

No sorry she doesn't want to book now she wants to book next year to give people to save but she wants it booked a year in advance of the hen do which is when we are starting to try for a baby. There's some added pressure now as I'm having to look into it as MOH and the costs are looking a lot for something I might have to miss out on. I know that's not her problem just a worry I have :\

Book everything you want to book! You can do most things pregnant or with a baby, and you can also get insurance to cancel it if you change your mind closer to the time :)

My first was conceived 1st time, we’ve been trying for number 2 for 18 months. I’d have missed out on so much living if I had put of plans all this time!

Honestly I'd just book anything you want to! My experiences are the total end of the spectrum to yours in terms of starting a family (9 years since I first tried, 4 miscarriages and a neonatal death) so seeing as you don't know what might happen or not then i would just book but make sure you have insurance and are aware of any cancellation policies.

I don’t think you should put your life on hold and hold off plans as you don’t know what the future holds and how long if / when you will conceive. I think you’ve almost just got to “go with it”. Good luck for the New Year 😊x

I don't think anyone gets an invite for an aboard hen do (or wedding for that matter) and thinks oh brilliant, this is exactly how I want to spend hundreds and hundreds of pounds. Does it have to be abroad? You've got loads of time though. Just book two places with free cancellation when you have to, one for the total number of attendees and one for about 10% less because their will be other people who lose jobs/get pregnant/have sick relatives. But I'd really try to go for a UK option so that you'll probably be able to make it and people can actually afford to come.