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Should I just give up?

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Bruminbrum · 31/08/2025 17:29

Hi All,

Should I just give up and accept it’s not meant to be?

I’ve just turned 36 and am so blessed that I have two children (conceived at 29 and 31, delivered at 30 and 32) I feel like such an idiot for waiting as long as I have for #3 but life got in the way. I started a month after turned 35, so it’s now been 12 months but I’ve only had 10 cycles. In 2 I had a severe infection from cellulitis which pretty much destroyed that cycle.

My AMH is good, UK measurement of 37 and I’ve had an afc of 29.
I take 1000mg of metformin for lean pcos (tried inositol and nac but it shortened my luteal phase)
I take ubiquinol, omega3, pre natal, vit d, zinc and p5p in my luteal phase and I’ve just been prescribed progesterone because my luteal phase can be a bit short (11 days) BUT I’ve had my 7dpo bloods taken than showed progresterone of 38, so I do clearly ovulate.

My husband had very good concentration 27m, morphology of 5%, but his progressive motility was low at 22% BUT his total motile sperm count was 18.6m which I’m told is still pretty good.

What else can I do?

I’m wondering to ask a fertility clinic for clomid or something to boost the number of eggs? But it might be tricky to get as they just recommended progesterone.

should I just call it a day? I don’t understand why it’s not happening x

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Outside9 · 01/09/2025 00:24

Sounds like it could happen, albeit it may take longer as you're older.

But in that circumstance, i certainly would not be defeated.

Xavier78 · 01/09/2025 01:05

Are you not sure if you want number 3? Fair enough if not, but 10 cycles isn't a huge amount before throwing in the towel.

DD took 23 cycles to conceive so I do know it can be disheartening, but I was desperate to conceive so never wanted to give up.

I did indeed use clomid. Private prescription. Doc was happy to prescribe even though I was ovulating okay. I got pregnant the second month on it.

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Bruminbrum · 01/09/2025 09:45

Xavier78 · 01/09/2025 01:05

Are you not sure if you want number 3? Fair enough if not, but 10 cycles isn't a huge amount before throwing in the towel.

DD took 23 cycles to conceive so I do know it can be disheartening, but I was desperate to conceive so never wanted to give up.

I did indeed use clomid. Private prescription. Doc was happy to prescribe even though I was ovulating okay. I got pregnant the second month on it.

I definitely do, I’m just worried about my age and then the age gap between my kids. I fear I’ve put my life on hold ttc, no wanting to book any holidays just in case, not progressing career wise (moving company) just in case.

its just become so disheartening and heartbreaking. Each month the pressure builds

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samsonthekitten · 01/09/2025 11:11

Stop putting your life on hold
live your life keep doing what you enjoy

Mumofteenandtween · 01/09/2025 11:19

Book yourself a dream holiday for next summer. Think about it every day. Boast about it to everyone you have ever met. Constantly.

You will be knocked up by Christmas! 😂

ForGiddyDreamer · 01/09/2025 11:32

@Bruminbrum 36 is nowhere near beyond the point of getting pregnant. Lots of women on here are over that age and either ttc #1 or have just successfully caught (like myself). I think you are putting a bit too much pressure on yourself. 10 cycles is also not a lot in the grand scheme of things. I say this as someone who sat crying in the GP in July that it hadn't happened for me yet for her to tell me to relax with the tracking and then I caught the next cycle. Don't put your life on hold while trying: book the holidays, go for the job promotions. It's such a difficult and emotionally draining time. Be kind to yourself x

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Bruminbrum · 01/09/2025 11:36

Mumofteenandtween · 01/09/2025 11:19

Book yourself a dream holiday for next summer. Think about it every day. Boast about it to everyone you have ever met. Constantly.

You will be knocked up by Christmas! 😂

Haha you and I must have a psychic connection because we just did, we booked Florida for our kids just last week for next summer

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Bruminbrum · 01/09/2025 11:39

ForGiddyDreamer · 01/09/2025 11:32

@Bruminbrum 36 is nowhere near beyond the point of getting pregnant. Lots of women on here are over that age and either ttc #1 or have just successfully caught (like myself). I think you are putting a bit too much pressure on yourself. 10 cycles is also not a lot in the grand scheme of things. I say this as someone who sat crying in the GP in July that it hadn't happened for me yet for her to tell me to relax with the tracking and then I caught the next cycle. Don't put your life on hold while trying: book the holidays, go for the job promotions. It's such a difficult and emotionally draining time. Be kind to yourself x

Isn’t 12 months infertility though?

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bumbling · 01/09/2025 14:16

I started TTC at 38 and about 20 cycles later i have finally made it 8 weeks pregnant. In that time I did have 2 losses but the last was October 2024 and we conceived in July 2025. We had just about given up hope when it happened. You have been able to conceive previously and don't have any obvious health issues preventing conception. It might just take a bit longer. Don't put your life on hold in the meantime.

ForGiddyDreamer · 01/09/2025 14:38

@Bruminbrum the advice for over 35 is to see a doctor if no success after 6 months. I think the 'infertility' label gets bandied about too quickly. Your results have been good and you have prior children. It might just take longer this time, which is difficult to sit with! Like PP I was giving up hope after a mc this Feb and a chemical the month following, but it happened and I'm 7+4 today (and praying this one sticks). I am 37.

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Bruminbrum · 01/09/2025 14:57

ForGiddyDreamer · 01/09/2025 14:38

@Bruminbrum the advice for over 35 is to see a doctor if no success after 6 months. I think the 'infertility' label gets bandied about too quickly. Your results have been good and you have prior children. It might just take longer this time, which is difficult to sit with! Like PP I was giving up hope after a mc this Feb and a chemical the month following, but it happened and I'm 7+4 today (and praying this one sticks). I am 37.

We’ve seen a clinic through my insurance and they said it’s mild male factor

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